Having troubles with the family here, and in need of expert advice here, a Q&A, translated…
Q: Went to See My Grandchild Too Often, and My Children are Becoming Annoyed…
Mrs. Y has a daughter and a son, and since they were younger, she’d done everything she possibly could, to make sure they received the best in everything, or, maybe it’s due to how talented her children are naturally, after they graduated, they’d become elites; her son is a doctor, married to a district attorney; her daughter needed to take business trips abroad often, she seemed to have work that’s above the standards of the society too.
it’s just the two of you in the end, after the children grows up, not my picture…
Her daughter-in-law has two children now, and, after the daughter-in-law came from for the afterbirth center and returned back home, Y who’s middle class gave her a HUGE red envelope to give to her daughter-in-law. Because the grandchild was just, way too cute, as a new grandma, Y felt compelled to visit with her grandchild once every two, three days; but, as her son saw her, he’d started screaming at her, that they are very busy, that she shouldn’t just come to their place to visit as she pleased. And Y felt awful and felt chased out, and ran to dodge for cover, and the moment she arrived home, she’d felt ill, as she’d called her son to tell him she wasn’t feeling well, her son chose to ignore her, and so, Y can only call her daughter who was living overseas, but, her daughter didn’t pick up either. But, I’m thinking, that even IF her daughter picked up the phone, there’s nothing she can do for her mother either.
A My Advice
As parents, when the kids were younger, we may have, zoomed in on their scholastic performances, but FAILED to teach them how to act right, causing the children to grow up, without ANY scent of gratitude whatsoever. But, I think, that Mrs. Y is too driven to get closer to her children and grandchild, that she’s too lonely, and just, needed some show of care and concerns, causing the children to feel enormous pressures from her. Mrs. Y is still very young, and should focus on getting her physical health better, I truly hope, that she hadn’t, given her assets to her children yet, and use the money, to start anew on her second life, that way, she will have, NO worries.
watching those “chicks” fly away from us…not my picture.
So, we have this TRADITIONAL Chinese mother who’s now having problems adapting to the FACT, that her children didn’t need her anymore, and it’s because she’d spent ALL her energies while her children were still younger, to love them the way she feels is right, and, now the kids are all grown, and she’s all alone, and naturally, she’s being attacked by the feelings of empty nest, that, is why she felt compelled, to get closer to her children and their young too.
Life, the Obstacle Course 