Translated…
My younger cousin is finally, walking down the aisle with her boyfriend who came from a rich family now, my aunt was originally, very happy, but lately, she’d been, overcome with gloom, turns out, that the future in-laws planned to get an attorney, to set up a prenuptial agreement for the children, this had, made my aunt upset, believed that the guys family thought, that her daughter was after their son’s money.
My aunt told me angrily, that she and my uncle, who’s a school instructor, put a lot into educating and sending my cousin to a good school, that although she is not a physician, but she’s financially independent, and could hold her own in the workforce, she’d not plan to let her husband support her, how would she need to, rely on her in-law’s side of the family to keep her well? In my aunt’s belief, the prenup was not only insulting, but also, a bad omen for her daughter’s marriage.
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What’s more upsetting to my aunt was, that my cousin who worked in the legal department of a bank didn’t think it improper to have a prenup. She believed, that everything can change in the world, that, marriage is a matter of civil agreement, and that if they could, clarify the rights and obligations first, that it wouldn’t, necessarily be bad for the couple, she couldn’t understand, how her own mother could interpret the prenuptial agreement as the man’s not really into marrying her.
Personally, I’m on my cousin’s side, but, I’d also understand, that for the older generations, marriage is not a matter of just the two individuals, but the matter of two families. I’d not signed any prenup when I married, but, in order to satisfy both our parents, I’d spent a ton of time and energy, on making the rituals happen, and, the mediation of the matters, is a test of whether or not the newlywedded couple has what it take, to get through the hard times or not.
So, prenup for the Asians is a bad omen, as, who the HELL wants their young to already go through the trials of the possibilities of a divorce when s/he gets married, but, prenup is actually, a very GOOD way, to ensure that both your rights are looked after, if things don’t work out, and, this still just shows, the generation gap in the beliefs of how things worked for the generations…
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