Between the Siblings

From a Chinese blog I’m a subscriber to, translated by me…

I bought a brand of chocolates, the toys with a band’s logo, to give to the brother and sister pair. Without knowing, that the older brother’s toy was flawed, the battery slot was already, rusty, and there weren’t any chocolates. While the younger sister’s chocolates and toy were good, with a small bag of chocolates, inside the toy, the younger sister was happy, owning her chocolate, and gladly, shared it, with her older brother, it’s just, that it’s already, getting late at night, so, the younger sister put the chocolates into the freezer, and promised to share it with her older brother the next day.

how sibling interact with each other when they were younger, not my photograph…

The older brother is in the first grade, when he woke, his baby sister is still asleep! Before he headed to school, he’d opened up the freezer doors, then, swallowed the chocolates, one, by one, and, there were only, two pieces left, and he’d not wanted to, save it for his younger sister at all! He’d, stashed it away under his pillows.

As the younger sister woke up, the freezer had nothing, where are the chocolates? The younger sister, still searched, with her hope still intact, and, she’d discovered, two pieces remaining, underneath her older brother’s pillow, the younger sister was ecstatic she’d started dancing around! Ate one piece, but, what about that final last piece? The younger sister is just…………

As the older brother got home from school, the younger sister didn’t hold a grudge and blame her older brother, instead, she’d told him happily, of her discovery. The older brother hurried into his own bedroom, there was, NO chocolate underneath his pillow, he was so angry he’d, shoved his younger sister.

The younger sister cried, and told, that she’d, save a piece for her older brother.

After I’d heard the story, I couldn’t help, but smile, because it’d reminded me of the childhood days that my older brother and I shared, and the interactions I had! The younger sister was just like my younger siblings, naïve and kind-natured, and easily tricked by me. It’s just, as we aged, my personality changed, my siblings and I got along quite well, and, from this perspective, I can’t help, but smile about how cunning the older brother was, and loved that naïve nature in the younger sister too, and believed, that this encounter, showed how children act, what they will do, to get what they want to have. That the younger sister, was with a childish innocence that’s worth cherishing, that the parents only needed to, correct the children’s behaviors, that there’s no need to worry about it.

“you started it”, “No, YOU started it!!!”  not my photo still…

I heard the family’s telling me what happened, because with a motive, to change a behavior, wouldn’t be a good way to start a counseling session.

This showed, how the adults have the tendency to overreact, to step right in, to resolve the children’s conflicts, and the writer of this article saw this as children being children, that, was why he’d not, intervened any further. And, things would’ve turned out differently, if this therapist went to the older brother and told him what he did, took his younger sister’s chocolates was wrong, because it would, impact the boy’s life, and sometimes, the parents just need to relax, sit back, and watch the children work out their own conflicts, using their childish methods, it’s better that way…