Fighting to Adopt, the Family Was Finally Allowed to Adopt…in Order to Give Kiki a Home, Mrs. Chen Ran Around All Over to Get the Support She Required: the Scripts of Tug-of-War of a Child, the One Being Hurt IS the Child

Another case, that turned out, a bit more optimistically, but the process was, equally hard, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

A young girl, “Kiki” (a pseudonym) from a single parent family, her mother died of cancer, and, as her mother was about to die, she’d given her daughter to the foster mom, Chen, to care; Mrs. Chen had, wanted to adopt Kiki, to “give her a real home”, but, she’d gone through a ton of hardships, to finally make that happen. Mrs. Chen questioned, that the “adoption department of the local governments had, stopped functioning like it’s supposed to already.”

Kiki who started in the first grade just this September, had lived with the Chens for over six months, with a pair of big, shiny eyes, she’d played happily with her ten-year-old older brother, with her new hairdo, stated, “I’m so afraid of getting sent into an orphanage, I want to stay here forever.”

Mrs. Chen, with a college degree in Education, in order to keep Kiki, had undergone the trials too; last September, Kiki was placed in the Chen’s home, a month later, her birthmother who had cancer took her back, connecting these two stranger families together. And while Kiki’s birthmother’s health conditions allowed, she’d gone over to Chen’s house to sit and interact a lot, she’d told the family multiple times, that she’d hoped, that the Chen’s can help look after Kiki after she passed away. Turns out, that Kiki’s mother grew up in an orphanage, and didn’t want the same experiences for her own young child.

This New Year’s, Kiki’s birthmother’s condition worsened, and Mrs. Chen paid her a visit at the hospital, and found, that Kiki hadn’t had her meals regular for a while, and couldn’t bear to leave her behind, Mrs. Chen who was a certified nanny signed a “long-term nanny agreement”, and made a pact, that Mrs. Chen was to look after Kiki until she was eighteen.

A month later, Kiki’s birthmother had died, and Mrs. Chen wanted to adopt Kiki, she’d notified the county government and the fund for children and families, but her adoption papers were tossed out, with the reason of “not qualifying for adoption”. Because she’d babysat Kiki for long-term by Kiki’s mother, so if she wanted to adopt the girl, she’d had to go through the procedures like all other families who wanted to adopt; and the social worker told her, that if the evaluation showed the she and her family was not fitting enough, then, Kiki may well be adopted by other families.

She’d hit a fork in the road in adoption, so Mama Chen had to find another way, had Kiki’s birthmother’s friend file a statement of “Last Will Custody”, wanted the courts to pass down a direct ruling, to acknowledge the friend of Kiki’s mother being named as her guardian, then, Mama Chen will take on looking after Kiki, and at the start of this month, they finally got their wish. Mama Chen sighed, that the social services unit had the Fund of Children and Families fully in charge of the adoption processes, to control the outcomes of the adoptions; and the families which wanted to adopt the children needed to use the laws for protection of children, to fight for the custody of the child, which would damage the child’s body, heart, and mind.

The Taiwan Fund for Children & Families in Pingdong stated, that because Kiki’s birthmother’s condition was stabilized that, was why she was returned back to her family of origin, thus ended the foster family relationship with the Chen’s, but, the social workers found, that Kiki’s birthmother had, given Kiki to look after by Mrs. Chen again, but Mrs. Chen didn’t let the county government know, that there was, such an agreement made with Kiki’s birthmother, that this, was no longer a foster parent relationship. The Taiwan Fund of Children & Family stated, that after Mrs. Chen told them of her intentions of adopting, the social workers immediately pointed them toward the adoption agencies, they’d handled the procedures as if it were any regular adoption case, that there was, no making it more difficult than usual.

So, this, is when you’d only had an oral agreement, with NO other witnesses, and this, would be hard to stand up in court, but, for the best interest of the child here, the custody of the child should be given to the caretaker, the babysitter of this young girl, as her mother trusted her own daughter’s life to her before she’d died, but it’s not written down, which was why it was, hard, to verify exactly what’s been stated, and in these cases, the ones hurt the most ARE the children!!!