Translated…
If the mothers-in-law becomes more and more interested in the sons-in-law, then, the fathers-in-law, toward this dude that took away their lovers from a past life, must be annoyed. Ever since the start of time, there had been, the bad relationships between the mothers and daughters-in-law, causing the mothers and daughters-in-law to stay away from each other, and their interactions became, less intimate, less connected, like those fathers-in-law to with their daughters-in-law.
I can’t tell, if this, is the opposites attract theory working, as I’d told my friends my findings, they’d all agreed.
May’s son and daughter both had steady boy and girlfriends. May told me, that every time she’d asked her daughter when she’s bringing her boyfriend home again, that she was going to cook for them, her husband would always said coldly, “They have to work, they can’t find the time to visit often!” “But my husband wanted my son to invite his girlfriend home a lot……”, May continued, “Every time I was working in the kitchens, she’d wanted to help out, but couldn’t, and I couldn’t ask her to wash the vegetables, so I can cook the meals, and I’d thought, we should just, all go out to eat instead.”
Ling was just like me, only has sons, and no daughters, she said, that her husband would often say the name of her son’s girlfriend, like she’s already, married to their son already. But Ling thought, that her son and his current girlfriend isn’t going to last, that future is still unknown, “Is it a bit early, to relate to each other so intimately?” Ling didn’t show much emotion when she talked of it, I guess she is still unwilling, to face how her maternal love will be, replaced by the love of another woman.
Long has a beautiful daughter, everything he wore, his daughter picked it out for him, but, as he’d realized, that his daughter also buys her boyfriend clothes, he’d felt jealous, and said with this sourness, “how can my daughter be so nice to someone not her dad?”
In the midst of talking, everybody lets out a sigh of relief, turns out, it’s not how we’re all, calculating, but as we deal with the role changes in parenting, a natural dissonance surfaced, and I believe, that through this sort of talking it over, sorting it through we’re all going to, be happy to see our children and their other halves, happy together.
So, this is, something that comes, naturally then, mothers feel jealous of their sons’ girlfriends and wives, because they feel that they’re, replaced by them, that they’re no longer the only one their sons loved, and same for fathers, and, this, is something that all parents need to cope with, unless you want to ruin your children’s marriages.
Life, the Obstacle Course 