Feeling trapped, by the family’s disapproval of her boyfriend, in dire need of advice, a Q&A, translated…
Q: Wanting to Marry Her Boyfriend, But Only Her Mother is Against it………
Two years ago, Hsuan wrote me a letter because she was having difficulties between her mother and her boyfriend, now, she’s twenty-eight, more mature, and more settled, she’d also had plans for her own life in the future too, it’s just, that she still couldn’t, manage to change her mother’s thoughts, so, she’d written me another letter, asking for help.
The things are as follows, a few years ago, Hsuan met her current boyfriend from work, they’d fallen in love and respected one another too, planned to marry as well, but Hsuan’s mother thought that the man came from a poor background, that he’d not gone to a famous school, that his father was an irresponsible man (so Hsuan’s boyfriend started carrying the load of his household back when he was in the twenties), not only did her mother ban her boyfriend from coming over, she’d done everything she could, to prevent Hsuan from seeing him.
Two years ago, Hsuan was only twenty-six, she’s not in a hurry to marry, plus her mother threatened to take her own life, I’d not encouraged her to do anything rash either. But, two years later, now, Hsuan became even more deeply connected with her boyfriend, and they both have stable jobs, and, even the other elders, as well as the neighbors all spoke on the couple’s behalf, but, it’d not, dettered her mother’s belief about the marriage one bit.
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She’s waiting for her boyfriend to get ready, then, she will marry him, but, the two houses aren’t that far, just two, to three kilometers away from each other, she’d feared that her mother is going to make a scene in his house, plus she couldn’t possibly abandon her own mother, she’d felt conflicting thoughts and emotions over it.
A My Advice
The love had, dragged on for two years now, what else does Hsuan’s boyfriend need to prepare? They can register for marriage first, then, hold a wedding banquet. As for Husan’s mother, she could have her father who’d supported her, her aunt, her uncles, as well as her siblings to convince her mother, pass through the difficulties, one at a time. So long as you’d end up happily married, in the future, I’m sure, that your mother will be happy for you too eventually, I wish you the best!
not my photograph still…
And in this case, maybe the mother has a valid reason for going against this woman’s marrying the man, perhaps it’s her own experience with men, who knows, and, I do believe, that if this couple married first, without her mother’s blessings, that would be the easiest way for the two of them to be together, then afterwards, they will have to work really hard, to convince her mother, to drop her preconceived notion, either way, it’s a hard fight…
Life, the Obstacle Course 