Translated…
A while back I thumbed across “Happier as My Husband Retired”, I’d felt a mixture of emotions, although I’d understood, that we each have our separate lives, but, think about how in a few short years since my husband’s retirement, he’d turned from a good man who looked out for his family, into a gambler, someone who doesn’t return in the nighttime, I can’t help, but feel, upset about it.
living together, separately…
This turn of life, had made me, look deeply, into my own marriage, in the past, I’d worked as a full-time worker and a mother and a wife, looked after my children while I worked, and my husband became, something I’d not needed to worry about, until he’d told me he wanted to leave the workforce early, ever since, the skies changed colors. And, no matter how I’d tried reaching out to him, he’d, shut me out; or maybe, it’s because of how at ease I was about him, it’d, made me missed the fact, that we’re no longer, on the same page anymore. After four, five years’ worth of tortures, I’d run around like a headless chicken, until my friend woke me up with a sentence, it’d, made me aware, to adjust myself, to start living with this stranger I’m, married to. After the trials of life, now, my sons are married, in three months’ time, and, seeing how I will be having a grandchild soon, I’d felt, that I’d been, blessed.
So, I want to call out to all the ladies, that you can give everything you have for your children and your families, but, DO make sure, that you will be, economically independent, this has nothing to do with how in love you are with your spouse, it’s just, that this will give you an extra set of strengths, that after love is gone, you will still be able to, live on, without worries, to start your lives anew.
So, this is saying that we NEED to have our separate accounts that’s all to our selves, meaning that it is NOT for family expenses, groceries, bills, or whatever, BUT us, that way, even as the marriage heads south, we’d still have something to fall back on, and this woman’s story showed exactly just that.