Why do you trap yourselves, women??? In need, of EXPERT advice here!!! A Q&A, translated…
Q: He’s a habitual cheat, and I’d had to play spy, our thirty years of marriage turned bad…
In her thirty years of marriage, her husband had ten affairs, from after W had her daughter and went to live with her in-laws for the month of recovery after birth, her husband took home a female coworker to their apartment to cohabit. After W found out, she’d tried consoling with her husband’s spare wheel, but she’d refused to give him up, and so, W can only, take her daughter home to her mother, to have her mother look after her young, and, she’d gone to work in the restaurant where her husband worked too, to keep surveillance on her husband 24/7, finally, she was, able, to beat out the other woman. W moved, quit her job, took her daughter back from her mother-in-law’s, wanted to focus on, making her family and homefront work.
Two years later, a neighbor told her in confidence, that as she’d taken her young back to her mother’s to spend the night, her husband had, brought home a woman to spend the night, and this, was another, betrayal that she took to heart! Ever since then, the twenty years of life they’d shared, became a game of catch, her husband would have an affair, and W would try to catch him having his affairs. During which time, the husband got angered, and started telling everybody else, that he was’t W’s only, and suspected that her son wasn’t his blood, that, was why he kept having his affairs—he’d made it a matter-of-fact, having his affair, rationalizing his behaviors of continually cheating on her.
A My Advice
I’m thinking, that W and her husband never really communicated well, causing her husband to have one extramarital affair right after the next, and his wife working hard, to catch him, like it’s a tale of the uglier version of “The Arabian Nights”, without an end. During the process of catching her husband in the act, other than getting almost beaten to death, W’s two children were hurt badly too, the son was suspected of not being his father’s child, causing the relationship between father and son to go sour, he’d become, depressed, didn’t take the entrance exams to enter into college; and W’s daughter was walking on edge constantly, because W moved out, she’d gotten screamed at by her father every single night………seeing all of this, I’d felt, that W and her husband are, truly a pair of SELFISH parents!
W and her husband’s marriage, finally ended, with the filing of the divorce, and yet, came the divisions of the assets they couldn’t agree on. W told the mediator of how her kids and her were, living in a state of chaos in the past thirty years of life, how they grew up, in an unstable home environment, that she’d needed to, end this bad relationship, so her children can finally be free, of the nightmare of having a drunk, and a father who couldn’t stop cheating on their mother. This, is a chance, to end this long-term victimization, W should stop getting bogged down by his affairs.
And so, the verdict here is: get a GOD damn DIVORCE, and, it’s really hard to imagine, what’s behind this woman’s keeping her state of marriage intact, the husband apparently mistreated her, and, he’d, abused her, and her children too, and yet, for some god forsaken reasons, this woman still can’t make up her mind about leaving him? Are you PSYCHO??? Your marriage went WRONG the moment your husband started showing HIS insecurity, and last time still wasn’t the LAST time!!!
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