Teach Him, Not Using Threats

By a show of hands, how many of you were taught, using threats??? And that, would still BE the WRONG way to teach a child!!! Translated…

That day, I’d gone to the food courts to eat with my husband, it’s during the summertime, and, whichever corner I’d looked, people are filling up the food court; I saw a table, with a mom, sitting at a table for four by herself, walking closer, I’d found, that her child of about five turned the seating into a race track, and was playing on it.

I’d asked, “Is this seat taken?”, “No”, “My child’s just, playing on it.” “I’m sorry, there are so many people today, can you ask your child, to let me have a seat her please?”, and so, the mother turned to her child, said, “Put up those cars! Someone is sitting down!”, the child replied, “No I won’t! I want to play some more.” The mother continued, “I’m telling you, to put up your toys, or, auntie will call the police to come get you!”, I’d immediately clarified, “young man, I’m not calling the police, I know you want to race your cars, but, I can’t find a seat in the food courts, and eating standing up doesn’t feel comfortable at all, so, can you please, put up the cars, let me finish my lunch, and hten, after we’re done, we’ll, give you back your racetrack again?”, the boy nodded, and started, putting up his toys, “okay, please, do sit!”

what?   it happens!!!

There was one more time, at a restaurant, with the seat in front of us, occupied by two families, the children all carried their own toys. After a brief moment of quiet, a little girl of about six started crying, her cries were very loud, I’d, instinctively, looked their ways, and, a dad carried up the young girl, stood up in front of us, stated, “look child, you’re getting so loud, keep on crying, that that auntie over there will yell at you, and the uncle sitting next to her will call the police to come get you!”, my husband and I stared at one another wide-eyed, and, kept our grins to ourselves.

My husband immediately stood up said, “no, no, no such thing, I’m not calling the police, and auntie here, won’t yell at you, we just heard you cry so loud, and wonder what’s wrong. Do you want to tell me about it, what’s making you so upset, little girl?”, the little girl pouted up her lips, said, “They’re all playing with each other, nobody wants to play with me………”

All of these incidents are continually happening all around us, I guess, it’s because how some of the parents don’t know how to communicate with their young, and soothe their upset, and so, they’d used threass to stop their young from misbehaving, hoping, that they can start behaving, and do what’s expected of them.

looks scary, doesn’t it, not may art…

And still, as a child ages, because the emotions developed earlier on, the child would need the adults, to understand why s/he is upset, so long as the child’s emotions are being accepted, normally, they would, take in the adults’ words more. And so, parents, please, DO leanr to read your children’s emotions, and keep up that communication with them, so each moment that you interacted, will be filled with the positive energy flows.

So, from the above two cases, the young children weren’t crying out of turn, they were crying, for reasons, and because the adults that they’re out with don’t take the time, to understand WHY their young child is “acting up”, those adults resorted to blaming the kids for making too much noise, for crying out of turn, and all you stupid parents should take from this!