On relating to each other in a marriage, translated…
I’d lived by my husband for a long time, and, the days we’d fought were countless, he’d gotten this way about him, that no matter how hard I’d nagged, he could just, tune me out, and, as I called out to him, he’s, not moving, and, if I got so mad I’d pushed him, he’d lain, slanted on the bed, with his eyes, glued to the televisions; and, before you’re done, nagging, he was already, snoring loudly, no matter how worked up you are, he’d not been, affected, and, totally not realized, that you’re, right by his side.
Could it be, how the boys were raised, to never fight a girl? Nah, otherwise, why would he, make me mad? Could it be, how everybody told, after a certain age, all a man has left, are his two lips? Thinking back to how we began, because he couldn’t say those words of love to me, I’d not heard any; and, as we marched into midlife, he’d become, busy from work, rarely spoken; and, as he entered into late adulthood, he’d become, talkative, but the contents, really makes me mad. Although he’d often said, “Those sweetened word, so easily spoken of.”, but, which woman doesn’t like hearing them?
“what did I do, honey???”
If I don’t talk out my stress, I will totally fall ill because of holding it all in, but, when I thought about pouring my heart out to him, he’d naturally tuned me out completely, or only, pretended he was, listening. And now, we have a cell phone each, and, we’d started, LINING to people, my husband joined the bunch too, and, I’d come up with a way, to use LINE to vent, and, I wouldn’t need to worry, that he didn’t get it anymore, and I’d not needed to, scream so loudly, and can avoid the fights too. I’d slowly, LINED him everything I needed him to improve on, to change, that way, even IF he still remained silent, at least, he’d known, what I’m unhappy over, right?
If you asked me, after he read the messages, did he make improvements? Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, all I can say is that he’s slowly, progressing. At least, now when we talked, he’d thought first, on how not to say those words that can, hurt my tender heart, but, wanting to hear him say, “I’m sorry”, it’s going to happen, when the skies fall down, and now, I need to, keep on thinking, to see if there are ways, that I can get him to mumble out “I’m sorry” when he made me mad, that way, my anger would all be, gone!
still not the same, as saying it aloud, is it???
So, this, is probably due to pride, because for a man to say “I’m sorry”, it’s the same to him as admitting that he’d done something wrong, and, that, is damaging to his pride, and this, would probably be why the husband still doesn’t apologize to his wife, but at least, the woman had gotten him to respond to her more now, using a nonverbal kind of communication, that helps her gets the message TO her husband!
Life, the Obstacle Course 