The Two Decades of Marriage Got Beaten Out by a Three-Year Extramarital Affair

In need of expert advice, a Q&A, translated…

Q:

The distraught first wife, Ju wrote a letter in pain, that since she’d married, for twenty years on end, although her husband didn’t have stable work, but, their lives are, smooth enough, but, three years ago, she’d found him having an affair, she started arguing endlessly with her husband since. Ju wanted her husband to cut off ALL ties he has with the other woman, but, he’d told her, that she, is the one and only true love for him, that he will NEVER break it off with her no matter what; but, the twenty years’ worth of marriage that he has with her is a lot too, that he will not, abandon Ju either. He’d wanted it both ways, and asked Ju to accept his spare.

The twenty years’ worth of marriage that they’d shared, couldn’t compare to the three years’ worth of affair that he had with the other woman, hearing this, Ju’s heart started wrenching, and what’s more awful was, her mother-in-law knew the existence of her husband’s spare wheel a long time, and went out a lot with her, they’d become like mother and daughter, it’d caused Ju to hold that grudge even tighter. What Ju was in pain over was how she couldn’t let go, and couldn’t leave him, what, should she do?

tagged: “he cheated on his wife”…

A My Advice

The other woman has an established career, and is rich, Ju’s husband was attracted to her, for reasons related to this; in the past, he’d worked on and off, and, their twenty years’ worth of marriage, I’m sure, they’d argued about the matter of money, recalling back, what, can beat out the fun that he was having, with his spare wheel right now? Plus, he had the chance, of bringing his own mother along too, to make the elder happy.

Ju’s husband had once asked Ju to give him a year’s time, to leave his spare wheel completely, but he’d lied, this showed how cruel, cold, and heartless he is toward Ju, and, Ju’s not being able to let go of her marriage and her husband, it’s entirely, a problem of her self. She’d been married for over twenty years now, and the kids should be in their teens now, can take care of themselves already; and, the spare wanted a marriage, and Ju should tell her kids, that she and her husband can no longer get along anymore, but, no matter where she goes, she and her children will always be related.

My advice to Ju is, get a divorce, get some money, find a job, restart the second half of your life again. The root of not being able to leave him and unable to let go is because of fear, and getting taken advantage of, but, to this point in the marriage, rather than getting your husband to support you, it’s better that, you’d find, a way to support yourself!

a sorry excuse for a man!!!

So, this, is the problem of the married a long time, housewife whose husband had cheated on her, she’d derailed from the society for way too long, stayed at home, took care of her children, her husband, she does NOT have a viable skill, and, her husband cheated on her, and wanted her to accept his whore, and naturally, she’s not going to agree to it, and the problem is still in the woman, she just has to, be braver, and take that initial first step to divorce her husband, because being STUCK in her current condition is not going to do her any good no matter how you work it!!!