Tired of being someone’s whore, but you’re now, trapped, in need of EXPERT advice, a Q&A, translated…
Q: No Longer Want to Be His Spare Wheel, But Finding Herself Getting Deeper and Deeper in…
Ms. B just started working this April, based off of her letter, she’s outgoing, loved interacting with others, whether it be at school, or in the company she’s currently working in, she’d gotten along very well with everybody around her.
Very shortly after she’d started working, she’d gotten too close to a married engineer, but maybe, she’d sensed that scent of danger, but lied to herself, about how they just have more things to talk about in common than the rest of the coworkers, but in a very short time, they’d become, a couple in their interactions.
B also knew the man’s wife, they’d met a couple of time at the office functions, they have a six-months old young child. During this time, B kept wanting to break up, but, neither she, nor he was able to; the engineer told B, “the timing of when we met was just off, as I got married, I’d, told myself, no matter what, I am settled, that I will not waver, but, after I’d met you, everything’s let loose!”, he’d not understood, how he got where he was with B either.
B knew that she was still young, that she’d not want to get stuck as being a “spare wheel”, someone’s whore, but, she doesn’t have enough courage, to break it off with him, because she believed that she loves, and cares a lot about the man.
A My Advice
First, I can’t agree, that B and the engineer got together naturally, being optimistic, this naturally will help you get along with a lot of people, but, not knowing the boundaries of your own passions, is the same as giving a “hint” to men who aren’t at all, settled; based off of B, the engineer knew that he was unsettled himself too, that, was why he’d warned himself (and, after you, he will probably, feel attracted to another woman too).
But gladly, B knew, that she’s still quite young, and shouldn’t let herself get STUCK, but, they’re together at the office every single day, and, the passions will grow, and, they say they’ll break it off, and it’s all a lie, the only way for you, is make your mind up, find another job, pull yourself out of this environment, and, be sure you cut off contact with him completely, pour yourself into something else that will occupy all of your time, is the only way you can change the situation. When you walk into the path of infidelity, it’s like you’re entering a forest to commit suicide, you should, turn around, now, while it’s still early and you’re still young, and get the HELL out!
So this, is how it always starts, a man is unsettled in his own marriage and found someone at the office to have a fling with, and for him, it is just a temporary fix, when he gets bored, he’ll be moving on, but for the woman, not as easy, she’s already, invested her emotions into this wrong kind of love, and it would be, more difficult, to pull herself out of it.
Life, the Obstacle Course 