Finding out, as the wedding plans went under way, that the man she’s about to marry, had affairs, what to do??? Someone’s in need of advice all right, a Q&A, translated…
Q: with the Wedding Plans and a Baby on the Way, She’d Found Out, about Her Fiancée’s affair from before…
Ms. A who is thirty-four years old and twelve weeks into her pregnancy, as she wrote me, she’d told me that in just a month, she will be having a wedding banquet, but, she’d found out, that her fiancé’s had an affair two months before the date of the wedding, and, calculating the time as I’d received her correspondences, it’d happened, four moths ago. The reason why A found out, was because the other woman was unhappy of being dumped, and left a message on her fiancé’s Facebook pages and she’d discovered it.
a man down on one knee, still looks, VERY P-A-T-H-E-T-I-C if you ask me…
The moment she saw the message, A’s mind became blank, and, the trust she’d placed in her fiancé, was, completely gone. She doesn’t know what to do, seeing how they’re going to host their wedding banquet next month, if she’d confronted her fiancé about it, how was she, to face her families, friends, along with her parents, who can’t wait, to see their own grandchild? And, the baby inside of her, caused her to be even more stuck in the situation.
A My Advice
Actually, this, is the situation I feared the most, if A wasn’t pregnant, then, the problems would be more easily resolved, just cancel the wedding banquet, although she’d still needed to explain everything to her friends, relatives, as well as her families, but, it’s, very easily resolved. I really can’t agree with getting pregnant before one marries, because often in this sort of instances, the men are the one’s who’d screwed up first, and, being pregnant is something that’s causing the females insurmountable troubles, something that’s unfair to women, no matter what age we live in.
But, A’s situation still isn’t all that bad, the spare who got dumped spoke, because she was, unhappy of being dumped, at least, that meant, that her fiancée wasn’t willing to pull the plugs on their marriage because of this affair he’s had, that he may have been unserious with the other woman, or, it’s, a case by case, and just so happens, that this woman didn’t have enough charisma to keep him. And, although the fiancée may be a habitual cheat, but, putting all of this aside, A just need to talk with him, as a husband, to see if, he can still be trusted by her? And, whether or not, to go through, with the wedding plans? If he’d answered her honestly, then, just treat him as a bill that someone has used before, don’t hold this against him, do fight hard, for each other, as well as your own unborn child’s future.
not my photograph…
So, the “expert” is leaning towards forgiving this cheat, and even IF the man cheated, in a moment of weakness, how would this woman know, that he won’t have MORE, even damaging moments of weakness after they wed, huh? And, once trust had been broken, it just, can’t be repaired, no matter what, because it’s just NOT normal, to forgive someone for cheating on you, and let me ask you this, had the situation been “flipped”, had it been the woman who’d cheated on her fiancée, you think that he would take her back? If not, then, why the HELL, should you losers, ask us women to forgive, if you can’t even forgive, in a hypothetical situation where we’re the ones who’d FUCKED around??? Double standards, it’s still WRONG!!!
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