Keeping Your Promises to the Children

Translated…

Comparing to how the older generations would use “Be good, stop crying, I’ll buy it for you next time!” these sorts of empty promises, my husband and I rarely complied to our sons’ asking; once we’d promised them to buy the toys or taking them out, we’d done it, and told them the specifics of the whens, we never just, brush them off.

Sometimes, even as the time had passed, when they’d forgotten the promises we’d made to them, we would not let the promises we’d made to them become nothing, we’d still fulfilled our promises on time.  Originally, we’d wanted to make the children feel that they were cheated by us, but slowly, we’d found, that keeping the promises we’d made to them has the extra benefits.

First, we’d found that our sons became more patient than we are, they knew we were bound to fulfill our promises, that they wouldn’t have waited for so long for naught, slowly, they’d stopped being jittery, standing in life to buy things.

The most surprising to me, was how they’d learned to take responsibilities for the words that came out of their lips too, through observing how the requests we’d made to them, and agree or disagree to our requests, they can understand the differences between wants and needs now too, and they’d no longer asked us to buy the toys that they would play just once, then, toss away.

I believe, it’s because of how we’d kept our promises, that it’d built up our sons’ senses of security, and trust toward their parents, that’s caused all these changes.  It’s so very important, that parents pay attention to every word being said to their young, in order to set up the right kinds of values in your young, do start by “keeping your promises” to them first.

So, this is still setting an example for one’s own young, because these parents took the promises seriously, that, is why their sons will value the promises that they will be making to their parents, as well as others they may know, and these parents had, raised their young to become honest by keeping their promises to them first.