Before & after, such a huge difference, it’s like TWO totally opposite people, translated…
Once when my husband asked me out on an official date before we were married, we’d gone to a school to a singing contest, as the performances were over, it was, already very late, and because there was curfew, he’d flagged down a cab, so I can make my curfew at the dorm. From the gym where the show was to my campus at Waishuanxi was very far, and, all the way, this dude saw how the meter moved so quickly, he’d, hollered out, “Up again! Again!”
I thought that no matter how stingy a guy was, he’d pretended to be generous, on a first date, I didn’t expect someone to show his true feelings like that, I couldn’t help but frown, and right then and there, outed him.
not my cartoon…
But, there was NO other who were pursuing after me, and he looked just like the type I liked, so, I’d not, turned him down as he’d asked me out again and again. As we’d started formally dating, he’d stayed as he was, not hiding his “stingy virtuous nature”, and, although I’d hated his stinginess, but, I was in love, and, walked into the church with him by my side.
I’d never expected he would change, but, after we were married, he seemed, to have turned around completely, no longer did he mumbled on and on, about how much I was wasting, or after he’d flipped through the menus outside the restaurants, and pulled me away; instead, he’d often said, “If you like it, then, go and get it! What’s there to think about?” “It’s not that we eat out every single day, we can enjoy some extravagance every once in a while!” “You should take the high-speed rail instead! Saves the time and it’s comfortable too!”, this man who carried these values, was totally different from the guy that started freaking out as the meters on the cab goes up.
not my photo…
I’m guessing, that perhaps, in his school days, he’d needed to get the money from his family, and, his low wages, with my minimum pay as I started working, caused him to save on everything; until after we were wed, he’d started having stable sources of income that’s quite high, he’d started spending his own money, that, was why he’d shown his “nature” now; not only does he spend big on the red envelopes for my parents as well as his own, he was, very generous toward me too, never asked what I’d bought as I’d returned home from my shopping trips carrying all the products, nor did he show any disgust toward my spending over the limits from time to time on my credit cards either.
Toward this change in him, other than feeling glad of how lucky I was when I was “blinded by love”, I’m also grateful toward my husband’s “being stingy before we wed, and becoming a free-spender afterwards”.
So, this man’s change may be because before they were wed, he wasn’t sure if she’s the one, that he’d not wanted to spend all that money, and not getting any returns back, but after they were wed, he’d become, more open to the limits of spending the money on his wife, because when he was in school, he’d needed to receive allowances from his parents, and, now, he’s established at work, he has more money to spend at his will, so he didn’t need to worry, and his wife notices his change in his belief in money, and is more than glad, that she’d found a good “catch”.
Life, the Obstacle Course 