Accepting Their Own Fates

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We are all, bound, by our separate fates in life, so, stop fighting it already, huh???Translated…

What, is life exactly?  I think, maybe, it’s just, handling everything that fate’s thrown at you, instead of asking fate, to turn our lives the way we expected it to be.

That day, I’d, struck up a conversation with the elderly woman in my neighborhood, she’d started sharing the stories of her life with me, from her hint of helplessness, I’d learned, that turns out, she’d also once, fantasized, about marrying rich too.

The elderly woman told, that when she was young, she’d taken up a ton of delicate things such as embroidery, believed, that she will eventually marry into a rich family, and have NO worries of money, in the end, she ended up, marrying to her poor husband, and, all the artistic skills she’d learned became, useless, and, because she’d married poor, she’d done a ton of hard work too.  The elderly woman told this, with that hint of it don’t bother me, “Oh, I’d worked hard my whole life, I’m already old now!  Only this pair of hands, still looking as youthful as they did when I was a girl.”  She’d, spread out her hands for me to see, she’d looked at her hands for a short bit, then, gently, rubbed her palms together again.

There was another elderly woman who lived next to the church, who also carried the belief that she’d married the wrong man.  The elderly said, back when she was younger, she had a ton of suitors, other than working hard, in the trade of seamstress, she’d also, dolled herself up every single day, with the same wishes, of marrying rich one day, but, heavens had other plans, she’d, fallen in love, with a man who’s poor, and ever since, she’d started living, what she told was “a painstaking life” of a marriage.

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I can’t help but wonder and ask, why so many women set the goals for themselves to marry rich?  Undeniable, being economically well, it can stop us from worrying about the materials, but, based off of what I’d known and observed, a lot of the women who’d married into rich families don’t necessarily live on happily ever after, and, there are many, who ended up, divorced too.

Can we be like a lot of the successful people described, “take control of our separate lives”?  A lot of the instances showed, that most of the time, we can only do the best we can, and leave the rest up to fate, the elderly women once thought that they were, destined to be well taken care of and marrying rich, but, the fates had, played such a huge joke on them both, believed, that they’d needed to learn, the values of “hardships of life”.  And so, after they both married, they’d started, feeling self-pity and unfair, over this huge lesson in life, and at the same time, learning the lessons they were supposed, to learn.

And now, they’re, seventy, eighty years old, and are now, living their own separate versions of blessed lives, not only do they need to worry about life, their offspring are also, safe and healthy, and, could this not be, a sort of a “good life” made possible by themselves too?  Or maybe, if you live your lives based off of fate’s wishes, you would have a smoother life.

So, this, would be, the philosophies of life that one derived at from the observations and hearing the experiences of two elderly women, and, the thing is, fate is already SET since birth, and, how much money you are going to have in life, that’s already, set in stone too, it’s just, that you don’t know it yet, and, you’re still, searching for the reasons why your lives turned out the way they do, and that, is why, you still can’t feel at ease.