A mom got called in by her son’s homeroom teacher for a conference, translated…
As the first sectional exams came to an end, the school mailed the child’s grade reports home, it was third placement; the mom felt that the child did quite well, but saw the words that the teacher wanted to hold a conference with her.
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The mom who was confused, went to school to see the teacher. As the mom came in, the homeroom teacher cut to the chase, “Mrs. Lee, you need to push your so harder, look at how he’d only scored third highest of the class, he should’ve gotten the highest score.” The mom said, “Teacher, thank you for believing in my son’s ability, but I think, him scoring the third highest is very wonderful.” The instructor stopped doing what she was doing, stared at the mom, said, “You know how your child’s IQ was the highest of the entire class? If his I.Q. is the highest, then, naturally, he should make the highest grades too! I saw him playing with his classmates after class, you needed to push him harder, to study more.”, the mother became dumbfounded, “but teacher, scoring third is really good, plus, the off period between the classes, the kids should be able to play, what’s wrong with him playing with his classmates?”
The teacher looked a bit angry, frowned, “I’d never seen a parent like you, I’d called you in, for the benefit of your son, why can’t you get it?”, the mom became more confused, “I know you called me for the benefit of my son, but, other than grades, there are still a lot of things that children need to learn, they’d not needed to spend ALL their time on the scholastics!”, this time, the teacher rolled her eyes, “it’s your son, however you want to raise him is up to you, I’m just telling you, out of the kindness of my heart, if you can’t get it, there’s, nothing more I can do”, after the mom thanked the teacher, she’d quickly, made her escape from the son’s classroom.
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As the child came home, he’d asked his mom what she’d talked about with his teacher? The mom told it truthfully to him, the child immediately replied, “I will NEVER spend ALL of my energies on my studies, I need to play with my friends, but, I will keep my grades above average, it’s okay with you then?” the mom answered, “of course it is, grades are yours, what you want to make, you spend how much time on it.”, and this child had, kept the pact he’d made with his mom, playing hard and studying hard, he’d chosen a major of his interest, and this year, he’d graduated from graduate school.
Grades, had always been the key of concern for the school teachers and the parents, and they’d even hoped, that all their kids’ lives revolved around the books and studies. But still, in the coming of age of the child, socializing with their peers, setting a good interpersonal relationship, is also very important for the young, a vital part of life, and it’s even become, the primary motives of kids who’d not done well enough in school to study. In this world today, I hope, that the teachers, as well as the parents can be more open, so the children get to really, shine through, at every stage of their lives.
So, you see this contrast of the parent and the teacher’s belief systems, and the mother was right, but the teacher wanted to push the student hard, because she thought he could to better, without realizing, that sometime, if and when you push someone too hard, s/he would become withdrawn and may not make the grades that s/he was originally making, and besides, grades aren’t determinants of ANYTHING, it doesn’t even SHOW us what we learned in school, what we learned in school, will SHOW what we learned in school, and, all the educators out there should start, getting rid of those age-old belief systems already.
Life, the Obstacle Course 