See, children DO take after, their ADULT counterparts!!! Translated…
When my child got on my nerves, I’d recalled first, if I’d, talked to him in the manner he was, talking to me, and usually, the answer would be: YES!
For instance, when my child stated, “Get this, get that for me”, I’d wanted to ignore him, because he didn’t say “please”, but, when I’d asked him to get me something, did I remember, to use “please” too? No, I’d used the mode of thinking that “I’m the adult, and he’s the child” believed, that having him help me get something is no big deal, and thought, that children are naturally born with the courtesies, and are gentle-spoken by nature. Children are mildly mannered, when they’re still very young, sure, but, in the process of coming of age, the way I’d spoken to him, lowly, turned him, into another version of me.
This made me realized, that this is clearly related to my work, the people with whom I’d spoken with regularly at work are very gently and courteous too, but this, was far detached from reality, and it’d, shown and reflected the parental-child relationship I have at home with my son.
But unfortunately, in my every day life, I’d not, kept my feelings to myself as I should have, one day, my four-year-old nagged me, “If you remembered to do it in the morning, then this wouldn’t be happening right now!”, I was stunned, so, that, was how, I’d, nagged him on a regular basis.
The children can’t stay cute forever, it’s because the adults around them, aren’t at all, cute. The children can’t keep their innocence forever either, because the adults around them aren’t, at all, innocent, and, the child will need to, slowly, assimilate, into the adult world.
But, as the child goes from that two, or three year-old cuteness, round-faced, stout legs, slowly gotten taller, becoming this narrow-faced, long-legged, half-grown adult, if you’d treated him right, then, you can probably, get an alternative kind of payback. For instance, yesterday after school, he’d told me out of the blue, “Mom, I feel awful, I’d, stepped on your foot yesterday without apologizing, do you need to get a heating pad on it tonight, I can help you apply the meds.” I have, no idea where those thoughts came from, but it was, close to my heart, it’d, melted me instantly.
When one day, I’d started, beating myself over not grabbing a hold of a good opportunity and started, sighing, he’d asked me what was wrong. After I’d explained it to him what’d happened, from the backseat’s safety seat came, “It’s okay, just do better the next time!”, all of a sudden, tears, rushed out of my eyes.
In the process of raising a child, if you expect your child to grow up to be brave and righteous, you must be, decisive, unhesitant, brave, and with a clear sense of judgment yourselves, to be a role model, that your children can look up to.
So, this still just shows, how important parents’ behaviors are, because their eyes are still watching G-O-D, and children will always look up to their parents as their role models in their earlier years, and if, in those earlier years, you’d failed, to set a better example for them, then, how the HELL can you expect your young, to act right, especially IF you’re not, acting right too???