In need of expert advice here!!! A Q&A, translated…
Q: My Coworkers are giving me a bad attitude, but I don’t want to quit my job…
Ms. M, who’s introverted, but works very diligently at her job, with a willingness to assist others, for unknown reasons, became the one that her only male coworker, K had picked on. Once M wanted to call up a client using a phone that was attached to the fax machine, and K, who was waiting for a fax to come in started, cussing her out, using bad language, he’d even, insulted her mother too!
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K did not tell M, that he was waiting for an important fax, in the end, K tattled first to the boss, told that M kept on, interfering with his work. The superior knew, that M has a mild and gentle temperament, and knew, that K isn’t someone that one can get along easily with, in the end, the superior decided, to deal with the matter passively. After reviewing her own behaviors, M knew that she’d not done anything awful by K, but she’d still wrote him a card for apology, and yet, K threw the card into the trash in front of her.
There were six members in her work group including M, other than K and a person who’d worked a long time at the office that K was sucking up to, M got along very well with the rest. She enjoys working in this job, but she’d wanted the bullying to stop, she’d not known what to do, to change the situation she’s facing at work.
A My Advice
M’s workplace may be a more focused on relationship, a more traditional company, and there are a lot of the workers who’d worked there, because they have relations, and, having the company arbitrarily fire a member of the company is not at all high. But M could record K’s verbal abuse toward her down, so she could have the evidences to present to the heads of her office where an arbitrary session takes place, or she can seek out counsel on how to handle this sort of a bullying from a public office too.
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Before this though, M should pay close attention to how being a rookie in her work, she may have stepped on the boundaries of K unintentionally that’s caused him to be so awful toward her. Apparently, K doesn’t carry the attitude of being helpful to al, and, M had already apologized and explained a number of times, so, she should just, leave K alone for a bit. If she’d made more friends, then, maybe, she could find someone at the office who would support her, the more evidences she’d collected, the better chances she will have of winning, otherwise, if the company chose to ignore this, M would have a harder, and harder time, working there.
So, this is what we feared the most to happen at work, you don’t know what you’d done, to offend someone who’d been working at the office longer than you, and, you know that you’d done all that your job requirements had mandated you to, and, you just kept getting bullied by this person, and the only way to stand up to a bully is still, by confronting him, otherwise, you will keep on feeling that low atmosphere pressure at the workplace, but, seeing how this woman loved working at her job, collecting the evidence for her mistreatment by this coworker would be the surest thing, because if she has it on record, then, I’m sure, that the office will stand on her side, after all, she was, the victim of workplace bullying here.
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