Overcoming the obstacles in his life, using introspection, from the Front Page Sections, translated…
If you were abused at age three, would you still remember as you grow up? The thirty-six year-old artist, Jie-How Chen thought he’d forgotten, and after he’d met his wife who was willing to listen to him all of those memories from his painful past came back completely a year-and-a-half ago he’d recalled how when he was from three to five, he was raped by the family of four of his nanny, and his parents ignored the fact, and every time he’d recalled, he’d gotten so worked hard, started shaking and wanted to cry. And in order to help himself heal, he’d finally, decided, to tell his stories, published the book, “No Longer Silenced”, hoped to use the words to collect his own thoughts together, to find the happiness back, so he could become better adapted to the future.
Chen had a pseudonym, enjoyed involving himself in the social movements, used his own life experiences, and started his artistic developments. At age twenty-eight, he’d met his wife from Hong Kong who was studying in the graduate department in children development in Fujen University, Hsu, Hsu later on did her thesis on “The Right to Participate in Society for the Children in Orphanages”, which had the sadness, the sorrows, the loneliness that children who ran away from home felt, or after they’d experienced abuse of any sort. He said, that as he read the words, it was like, a wake up call to him, “Hey, it’s like it’s telling my story”, then, he’d started wailing, and it’d taken him a very long time afterwards to finally, collect himself.
Chen said, that he’d recalled that he was placed in his nanny’s home, but kept wanted to run from there, that that period of time in his life seemed to be filled with pain, that he was trying to escape from to date, gladly, his wife had the patience and the kindness toward him, which helped him, to courageously, finally, start digging up the past. He’d recalled how his nanny had touched his pubic region, and her husband had forced him to fellate him, and in the middle of the nights, the couple would wake him up, and forced him to watch them have sex; and the nanny’s children would flash her own pubic area to him, and mixed his semen into the milk, and tricked him to drink it down.
He’d once cried out to his parents for help, but, he’d gotten scolded, “it’s that your nanny is stricter with you”; he had his childhood memories returned to him thirty years later, that, was when Chen realized in shock, that he was, raped, he’d started having troubles sleeping, and would cry out in pain in the middle of the nights. His wife encouraged him, to deal with his troubles, to talk to his parents again, but the parents still told him, “you were way too young”, “you’d recalled it wrong”.
Being defeated, he’d not wanted to contact his parents anymore, he said, “My parents negligence and ignoring me was the same as if they were the ones, abusing me”, becoming the survivor of child abuse, it was, more important for him to heal himself up first, than to forgive.
And so, thankfully, this man has a supportive wife, who’d been trained in the areas of children, who was able to, help him uncover the truth, and, as his suppressed memories came back up to the surface, he forced himself to deal with what happened to himself as a young child, and learned, that none of it was his own fault, and forgave himself for his own vulnerabilities, and, by so doing, he was able to, find the closure he’d needed for himself, and he’s now, finally, moving on…