Translated…
Four years ago, I’d gone, as a good friend, to your wedding, on your wedding, you’d sung David Tao’s “I Just Love You”, with your eyes, gazing, full of love, with so much emotion. The bride, with tears in her eyes, walked toward you slowly, and, that moving scene of how happy the two of you were all, imprinted into the guests’ minds. The handsome groom sang the song, dedicating it to his beautiful bride, this, is the dream of all the women out there, so romantic, I sat there, moved, and, I’d said a deep blessing for you both, hoped, that the prince and the princess will, live, happily ever after.
not my candy heart…
But, a year after you two were wed, you’d felt, that something wasn’t quite right between you. You were still, in the honeymoon phase of your relationship, so, you’d, held it down, hoped, that things will change; the second year, all you stated was, that the two of you needed to communicate with one another, that you should be okay. Until past the third year, it’d gotten worse, you’d become, very emotionally distraught, said that you wanted a divorce.
It is, not at all, easy, to keep a home, there’s the high expenses, you’d worked really hard, but not made enough money, and would often be down on your last dime, and so, you’d had to, give up on your favorite leisure activity from before, photography, and, you’d, sold off, ALL of your equipment too, just to give your family a better life. But, your wife who was way too materialistic didn’t appreciate you, she has her own income, but was, unwilling, to chip in, to help the household make it through, she’d believed, that it’s a man’s responsibility, to provide for a family, and you’d carried this heavy load, she’d shown, that she’s only with you for the better, and not for the worse. The two of you started arguing constantly about money, plus you’d not shared the same goals in life for the future, this hard-to-build up love of yours, in the fights that came one right after the other, slowly, got, lost.
not my photograph here still…
Is it really harder to live together, than it is, to be in love? The two of you had broken all the obstacles, and finally, became husband and wife, but, now, it seemed, that you can’t get through the trials of every day life. You’d told me, that at least, you’d tried to make it work, that you’d not felt sorry, but, your wife just, couldn’t see it that way, and so, you can only, sever yourself off. You are, a very sunny, optimistic guy, and, seeing you getting weaker, and thinner, because of this love of yours, all of us, your best friends, all felt awful.
And, maybe, it’s not that bad, there is, a way, to make the changes. Your wife had, finally, realized, the seriousness of the issues, and, made changes to her own behaviors, not wanting to get separated from you. Other than putting up money for the household expenses, giving you the gifts on the special occasions, she was willing to, show more care and concern toward you in everyday life now. She’d given off the biggest kind of show, tried, to patch up this wide crack that’s between you two, but you’d told her, that it was, too late.
I know you still loved your wife deeply, she’d not wanted to give up on this marriage either, actually, all that’s needed, is the mindset to make a change, everything is still, NOT too late. Find the love at the very start back again, and, cherish this, hundred-years’ worth of hard-to-come-by affinity that you two had been given, restart on your marriage again! Just give one another a chance, and, walk along a bit? The coursework of marriage, you learn, as you go along, work on it together, grow together. I really hope, that the two of you can find back that happiness that’s once lost, and, love one another more, and more, each, and every day.
not my picture…
And so, this, is after the man had, worked so very hard, to give his wife all that she’d wanted, and, before, she was way too immature, to keep on taking you for granted, and, you’d, finally had it, and, she’d started changing, and in this case, I think, this man should give his own wife a chance, to change, besides, it’s not as if either parties (sorry!) here had done something to betray the other, causing their marriage to crack beyond repair, so, this pair still has a fighting chance.
Life, the Obstacle Course 