The Attachment Relationship in Relation with Your Children’s Futures

From the experts, translated…

In the research of development of infants, it’s discovered that the attachment relationship between parents and children is a vital lesson. Children who were held less, or switched caretakers regularly, some would be completely aloof toward strangers, while others may develop this sort of extreme close connections with strangers. Whether it be aloof or too passionate, it’d all showed that the children didn’t know how to establish relationship with others, and this would be a result of not being properly attached.

here’s the Rhesus Monkey study…

not my photograph still…

Based off of the observations of the researchers, the children inside a nursery, when they’d not gotten the responses of caretakers when they start crying, they will grow up to become doubtful and anxious toward others when other people showed cares and concerns toward them; by the same token, if there’s a constant change in personnel in the nursery centers, it’d also cause the children to not form proper attachment relationships.

Another study showed, that before the senses of sight and hearing are fully developed, the infants used their olfactory senses to know the world, to establish their first relationships with the world. And, in my own experiences, from four to five months of age, when children still needed the adults to carry them as they fall asleep, they would stare at their caretakers’ faces and eyes before they drift off to dreams, then, slowly, they’d, closed their eyes, and, fall asleep, it’d showed, that it is, important, for the caretakers, to keep eye contact, and to give the infant enough attention in the infant’s vision development.

And, this viewpoint may cause anxieties in the working women toward leaving their babies with strangers at nursing centers, but, I’d hoped to remind moms, that the government mandated that the infant to adult ration for children under age two in one nanny for two infants, and for children two to five, four children per adult, and for the whole day nurseries, the two children would be the limit; and in recent years, the public nurseries that were set up had thirteen caretakers looking after seventy-five infants from birth to two, which is equivalent to one adult per five to six infants, this, apparently, would be, a BIG problem. Because behind this, there’s not just the lacking of adults, but also, on the quality of care provided, the attachment formations, as well as the growth of these children into adulthood.

and this, would be a “chart” for that…not made by me!!!

I’d once seen a private nursing center, on the side that faces out into the streets, there was, this dustless glass window, so one can see into how warm, how full of toys the room was; but, there would be two, or three young children of over a year-old who’d shown, absolutely NO interests in human interactions, and with their empty gazes, looking out the windows, ignoring the room full of raucous, searching, endlessly, for something in the passing cars, or the people on the streets.

These, are the looks that worries me the most!

So, you DO see how early attachment IS too important to dismiss to the back of your minds, right, but hey, we modern day women need to work too, and so, we are often, forced to leave our young at those “qualified” nursing centers, and just, go to pick up our babies after work when it is convenience for us, the adults, and we failed to realize, that having contacts with their parents, is what these babies needed the most, after all, you DO realize, how the parents ARE the primary attachment figures in a young child’s life until s/he goes to school, then, the significant other for the children became their teachers, you DO realize that, right, parents???