Children are Stronger than We’d Given Them Credit For

So, give US more credit, you STUPID parents!!! Translated…

When our children were younger, we’d taken care of them, made sure, that they have enough nutrition, the best care. Because they were unable to take care of themselves yet, this had become, the parents’ instincts, to take care of, and raise their own offspring. And still, we would often forget, that as the children grow by the year, our roles of being their caretakers start to shift to being just a companion to them, instead of trying to control our children’s lives in ALL the ways possible. Whether it be talent courses, cram school sessions, or their summer camp activities, to what sorts of friends they hang out with, a ton of parents are fighting, to MAKE the decisions for their young, and, the compliant children would, go along with the parents’ wishes and demands, while the more rebellious children, they’d objected, and, parents at this time would use an assortment of persuasions, so their young can keep marching onward, on the tracks they’d paved for them.

We’d often used the name of “love” to decide which paths in life our own children will take, because we’d wanted totalitarian control over, we’d, scheduled the children’s lives fully, and, the parents became over-pressured, plus if there’s the stresses from work, then, both the parents and the children would become, caught up in what’s seemingly, a “perfect home front”, and both sides won’t get time to relax and take the breaths.

In this past few weeks, something happened at my house, I’d panicked, for a short bit, our schedules were, completely, off. During this stressing time, my son was faced with the very FIRST major examination of his life, I couldn’t even take care of myself, or focus on preparing the meals for my family members, but, I’d found, that my son still kept at his original plans of schedules, prepared for his examinations, lived his life in discipline. He’d also remembered my most important rule for him: always get enough sleep and keep up with his exercises, and when he was, overwhelmed with the pressures from his studies, he’d played the piano, to blow off some of his steams.

I’d kept telling my son, that there are, endless numbers of exams in life, that this middle school graduation exams, is just, one of many. If he’d done well, that won’t mean, that his life would be set from here on out; if he’d bombed it, it doesn’t mean, that his life is ruined from this point forward either, but, the balances of his body, mind, and heart, would become the MOST prized possessions of his life. In the few weeks that us, adults were panicking, living day to day, he’d not only taken care of his own life, calmly studied, and took the reviewing examinations on his own, and even, in the mornings, he’d helped waken his own younger brother up for school too, he’d used his own actions, to help alleviated the stresses I was overwhelmed by. Last night, I’d, asked him for a hug, told him, that in my mind, he’s already, a 5A++, I’m truly, proud of him.

We’d often forgotten, that children, are independent entities from us, and often forgot, that they are, great strengths too, that they can find a way to, arrange their own schedules, to take care of themselves, as parents, we shouldn’t, DESTROY these capabilities that they have, already, acquired. Do give your children the space to develop on their own, allowing the children to find their own strengths in life, that, would be, the BEST kind of a gift we, as parents can give to them. I’m truly grateful, that as my children were growing up, I’d, constantly, reminded myself, to let go, so they can make the major decisions in their own lives for themselves, and, in the moments of need, they’d shown us, their strengths, which had been even MORE than we can ever imagined.

This would be why, parents should let go, because until the parents let go, the children won’t be able to shine through, but, as parents, we are all, very worried about our young, that, would be the nature of a lot of parents out there, but, if you don’t force yourselves to let your children SHOW you what they’re made of, how will they be able to know their own capabilities? And, how would you be able to know, if you’d done right, raising them up? So parents, DO relax, and sit BACK on the passenger side of your children’s lives already, huh???