My Husband Truly Loves His Spare, at Age Forty-One, Should I Just, Let Him Go?

Q: She could give him a child, but I don’t want to be alone…

The forty-one year-old Mrs. L and the thirty-six year-old Mr. Y were married for seven years, they also worked together, her husband puts everything into making the family work, he’d handled almost ALL the household chores, he’d cherished L too, worked hard every single day.

From when L got married, she’d wanted to get pregnant, but after several failed in vitro fertilization tries, none of it was successful, and she’d often, expressed her displeasures onto her husband a lot. This year, her husband openly admitted, that he’d been having an affair with a twenty-nine year-old coworker, and because she’d gotten in too deep, and didn’t want to be the spare, she’d filed for her resignation at the workplace already. And the reason why L’s husband was telling her was because he felt, that if they are to continue being married, then, there shall be, no lies between them, but L felt partially responsible too, her husband had complained to her, on how she’d only wanted to be intimate with him as she was trying to get pregnant, and was unhappy that she’d not paid attention to everything he’d told her, she’d even forgotten how many years they were married.

Because they kept separate schedules of sleep, they’d started living in separate rooms now. L still believed, that her husband truly loves that female coworker, the other woman is not only gentle and kind, and it would be easier for her to get pregnant, seeing how young she still is, and, if L truly loved her husband, should she, allow him to sleep with his female coworker? But L couldn’t even begin to imagine how she will fare alone after the divorce.

A My Advice

Of course your husband really loved his coworker, it’s just that he couldn’t disregard his image, divorce L who works in his office, and marry the other woman. Up to this point, L should at least try, to change the way she’d interacted with her husband in marriage, to show more cares and concern, help out with the household chores, you had worked so hard, then, see the roads take you.

So, this woman is really actually thinking about giving up, being a martyr in all of this, and, she doesn’t know what she is to do, because she’d given up on her marriage already, and besides, this other woman could give her husband something she couldn’t, a child…