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Issues, surfacing, right before, the BIG day here, in need of expert advice, a Q&A, translated…
Q: He doesn’t want to be tied down, I’m afraid of surpassing my reproductive period
In two months, Ms. H would be marrying her boyfriend, she wrote, that everybody all believes that the bride-to-be is happy, enjoying the mindset of being on a honeymoon, while planning her own wedding, that this period of time should be, the BEST in a woman’s life. But, H, who was originally immersed in the joys of getting married, a little while ago, became SHOCKED at her fiancée’s proclamations.
Her fiancée who originally wanted children, don’t know which of his friend’s advice had gotten to him, changed his mind on not having children after they are married, because, “there are a TON of advantages to not having kids, we can save up the money and travel together, and we’d not get annoyed by the children, tying us down regularly.” After H heard, she’d started, feeling flustered, wanted to voice her opinion to her fiancée, claimed, that she MUST have children, not very many, but at least, one.
She’d seen a ton of people who’d not wanted children when they were younger, but as they got older, they’d worked so hard, to conceive, and, the process of in vitro fertilization is grueling, and there are, rarely, any successful cases too. And still, when the two of them started discussing this, they just couldn’t, reach a middle ground. With the pressing of the days of her wedding date, H felt her heart became really burdened, she’d not dared tell her family and friends, and couldn’t find a way to resolve the problem herself, and, she’d become, uncertain, at the intersection of marriage, she doesn’t know what to do.
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A My Advice
Since the two of you are standing, on the entry of marriage, that means, that there would be, a certain of emotions invested. Don’t get wavered, by the issue of having children and throw your marriage away, if the two of you are still young, then, in a few years, consider the issues, a lot of people would change their minds a lot, there’s NO need to worry, the point is getting along with each other, and, if you want to, get your eggs frozen first if that makes you feel more secure.
H should just, relax, and get married happily.
So, this, is troubling to the woman, because she LOVED children, as did her fiancée, but, he’d listened to his friends’ words, and changed his mind about having kids, and, if a man’s mind can so easily be swayed, by the words, or the influences from the outside, then, he probably is uncertain on a LOT more other issues that would be facing your lives together, and, are you sure, that this, uncertain man, is the one you want to wake up next to, every single morning, for the rest of your life???
Life, the Obstacle Course 