A woman’s DEADLY mistake, in need of a lifeline here, a Q&A, translated…
Q: She’d just forgiven her abusive husband, and she’s now, faced with his infidelity…
Mrs. Q’s husband met up with a bar girl from China, the two of them seemed to have been dating for a short while. Later on, the woman went back to China to visit her kin, had a serious car accident, and maybe, it was because of that, she’d never returned to the bar to work again in Taiwan, but Q’s husband, from the moment he’d learned she was hurt, he’d called her internationally every single day, and would talk for over an hour at a time. The international calls are very expensive, and, the woman he’d phoned up is in the “special” occupations, how can his wife put up with it?
Q felt furious, and objected to her husband, but her husband is really good at making up stories, he’d told her, that he’d wanted to venture to China for business, that he’d needed the woman to set him up with a clientele, that he’d had his eyes on the long run, that if he didn’t, how can she expect him, to earn a lot more than he was earning right now? Even IF Q is stupid, or totally naïve, she’d known, that her husband was lying to here, but, she’d lacked the hard evidence, to bust him.
Q is in immense pain now, why couldn’t she, live her life in peace? Her husband had abused her four times from before, and, they were all, put down on record, but, she’d forgiven him for the incidents, and now, this problem surfaced, what is she to do? Q said she’d only wanted out of this marriage, why couldn’t her husband just let her go?
A My Advice
I’m not sure, if Q’s husband was the one unwilling to let her go, or, is it that Q still felt something, and lacked the courage to end her own marriage? But from my perspective, this husband who physically abused his own wife, who’s not in control of his own emotions, but after he’d beaten her up, he would probably be extra sweet to her, to make up for beating her. Violence is a habitual behavior, meaning, that once he’d hit you, there will be more occurrences of this violence. Actually, the actions of him, calling the other woman in front of Q showed this, that he’d not cared enough about Q at all, nor did he love her; if they’d not have any children, then, she should divorce him as fast as she could, this man doesn’t even treat her kindly, he doesn’t know how to. There’s no marriage that can’t be divorced from (especially with the prior records of domestic violence, if Q worked harder, at collecting the evidences, it would be even easier for her to get divorced), only a woman whose heart isn’t settled yet.
And, you’d still have to wonder, WHY the HELL is this woman still staying in this FUCKED UP (and let’s face it, that, is how it is!!!) marriage of hers, her husband didn’t respect her enough, he’d lied to her again and again, cheated on her, and, used physical violence on her too, what’s it gonna take, for you, to WAKE up, woman? Do you need to be BEATEN to the point you need a fifteen-day stay at the ICU “suite” of a hospital???
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