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Every parent what her/his own child to become outstanding, and the parents would, use a ton of energies, to find ways, to raise children who can become successful in life, and they’d all enjoyed, modeling after other people’s ways of successes too. and still, the education of the young is similar to weight-loss, there’s no quick and easy ways to do it, and, it’s rarely, one-size-fits-all. The truth is this: even if you’d followed those parenting books step-by-step, from when you were carrying your young, you’d started reading in English to the fetus, and put in as much energy as you possibly can to educating your young, there’s still NO guarantees that your offspring will be like the one in the books, having the abilities to get accepted to Harvard. The father of the pianist, Lang Lang had, used the harshest methods to train Lang Lang, which made his will become strong as steel, made Lang Lang famous and wealthy; but, if you’d copied his father’s methods, your child may have to pay the price of needing antidepressant regularly, and s/he won’t be outstanding among the crowd either.
The reason, is quite simple, in a different environment, with varied personality characteristics, and different standards, there would be a different outcome for how parents relate to their young; the methods which may work well for others, may not work well on all. Once, on a meeting involving the entire school, Mrs. Chen who was sitting on my right, asked Mr. Lee, whose children had gone to their top choice of high schools how he’d raised them to be so smart. He’d replied, “Have your children model after you, if you read every single day, then, your kids shall model after you too.” I’d immediately chimed in, “I’d studied and worked on my thesis until late night, my last year middle school son opened up my door and saw, he was so shocked, “Holy, how old are you, you’d still needed those all-nighters? Which meant, that it’s a huge lie those teachers, telling us, how if we’d worked hard now, we can have it easier later on!”, after I’d spoken, I saw, everybody nodding hard, in agreement.
Something as simple as being a role model, read more in front of your offspring, had an all new meaning in the children’s interpretation. Some child believed, that what the adults were doing and saying match up, some kids found the inconsistencies of the adults’ words and their actions, and started, doubting the authorities; the education of one’s young is hard, to simplify into the rules. Often, there were parents who’d asked me when would be the best age for kids to take up English, like there’s an age for kids to learn it, and, I’d given them the answers they’d not expected, “How much do you make? How late do you work?” Sending the kids to those afterschool cram sessions, but once you’d stopped the lessons, then, all had, gone to waste. Plus, if your child needed your eyes glued on her/him so s/he could study, then, you’d still needed to add in the amount of time it will take you, to study with them, so, the key is not about what age is the best, but how much time and money are the parents willing to put in.
As parents, we must have a sense of reality, in the realms of our capabilities, helping our children achieve their dreams, instead of, trapping our young, in our own dreams with absolutely NO reasoning, because that would cause the damages of the parent-child relationships to be beyond repair.
So, based off of this, so long as you, the parents are willing, to put in the time, to sit beside your kid, helping them with their assignments, your kid will work hard, because s/he would be more motivated by you, because you’re there, spending time with them, whereas if you’d just, thrown down loads of your hard-earned dollars, on those prep programs for G.T. students, and just, shipped your kids into the program, and not spend any time, asking them how their school days were, then, you’d not be able to, achieve as much compared to the first kind of parent I’d mentioned. So, put in the time with your kids, and, you will surely, get the results, and, kids will surprise you!
Life, the Obstacle Course 