The problem of having JOINT custody after the divorce??? From the Front Page Sections, translated…
nope, not my photograph…
The child switches homes once every two weeks, and had stated, “If I’m dead, then, there wouldn’t be so much bad luck in my life”, the judge: the parents are on bad terms with each other, and having joint custody is bad for the child, the custody went to the mother.
The eight-year-old girl in Taipei, after her parents were divorced, she’d started taking turns living with them; as she’d stayed with her father, she’d gotten made fun of by the relatives, and not only did she show signs of suicide, she’d stated, “I hope that they ALL die, after you died, I wouldn’t even show UP on your funerals”, along with other statements. The child’s mother filed for a sole custody suit of the child, and the judge, based off of the child’s medical records, allowed it.
The girl’s parents divorced eight years ago, and she’d lived with each parents for two weeks at a time. Last May, she’d lived in a hotel with her mother, she’d spoken, to the drapes of the building, “If I fall and die, then, I wouldn’t have to deal with the bad luck that is mine to handle at my dad’s anymore”, and recently, she’d started having suicidal thoughts too, after the mother found out, she’d taken her to the hospital.
As the child was being treated, she’d said, that she lived with her father, and eight other relatives, there were, so many voices at night, she couldn’t sleep, and she’d become lethargic in her classes, and, her older cousin would joke about how fat her stepfather is, and her father would say how ugly the daughter her mother had after her remarriage was, and grandma also said, that her stepfather is abusive, she’d disagreed with all of them, but instead, she’d gotten laughed at when she voiced her difference of opinions from them; and she’d still needed to pretend to like and to get along with them, otherwise, her father would scold her for it, “After I’m old enough, I’m heading to the United States, it’s best, that ALL of, and your families die.”
The child’s mother realized, that it was, getting serious, wrote an e-mail to her ex, but the ex always stated, that “if she’d started hiding behind you when she had fights with her cousins, how would she cope with the bullying in the school systems when she gets older? If she’d dodged the things she’d not liked, then, when she’s thirty and no longer wanted to work, will you keep her? You will only bring her up to be a strawberry that can’t handle the pressures, lacking that competitive edge.”
the dilemma this child is facing right now…
The child’s mother believed that her ex was dodging his responsibilities, that he’d not done all he could, to protect the child, and fought for sole custody of her daughter.
But the father rebutted, that she’d afraid that it may affect his daughter’s state of mind, he’d stayed single to date, and for the sake of her, he’d given up his promotion, and chosen to work closer to home, he’d chosen to accompany her, by reading her books, and the daughter would leave him love notes, it’d shown how deep the bond was between them; and looking at his daughter’s mother, who was, remarried, and had another offspring, that, would be, a high-conflict family.
The courts pointed out, that the child’ birthparents are on bad terms with each other, and if they continued to share custody, it would be bad for the child, plus all the medical records, and the social workers’ notes showed, that the members of the father’s side of the family didn’t get along well at all, that it’d caused her to develop a negative mindset, and so, the judge gave sole custody to the mother, and the father has two days’ visitation rights before she turns sixteen.
does this look like getting along with each other after the divorce to you???
And so, because this child showed maladaptation to living with her father, because the father didn’t instill the positive values of life in her, instead, he’d talked trash about his own child’s mother and her new family, which gave the child the stresses, because she’s in the middle of it all, so, she’d started developing psychological symptoms, and, for the child’s sake, her mother fought for sole custody, and the judge granted it to her.
Life, the Obstacle Course 