Translated…
Awhile ago, I’d struck up a conversation with members of the younger generation of my family, in the end, I’d found that the children who are marrying age said, that they’d feared the adults asking them “When are you all getting married?” around the New Year’s.
Although they’d understood, that the elders are showing their cares and concerns toward them, but, the matter of love and marriage is private to them, and everything is dependent on affinity, and so, some didn’t want to answer, while others felt, that it would be, very difficult, for them to reply, and even more feel that rather than having to deal with this awkwardness, they’d much rather go abroad on vacation, to avoid their families altogether.
Hearing them out, it’d reminded of the interesting things that happened around the New Year’s. Both my and my husband had large families, with many people, and so, every year, there would be men and women who are of marrying age, and, during the holidays, the hottest discussion of the elders are, “What’s WRONG with you, younger generations? Why aren’t you looking into getting married!”
The younger generations when asked, would either just, laugh it off, or give the adults the runaround, and, the results of that would either be, that it’d made the older generations disappointed, or that it’d, angered them, and the atmosphere isn’t that amicable at all.
Although each and every year, this would repeat, and the younger generations are all very, stressed when they were being asked, not knowing how to give a satisfactory answer to the adults, but, I’d found that my father’s first wife’s son, How-How really knew how to handle these situations, so neither party would feel awkward. For instance, when someone asked him when he’s going to treat us all to his wedding reception, he’d said, “Soon! Soon!”, and some had asked him what was the matter, that he couldn’t, find the right woman, he’d told, “I’m too outstanding, there are a lot of ladies who are into me right now, and I’m just, sorting through them one by one! When the time is right, there will be, a wedding!”, and, his parents would, do ALL they possibly could, to get him to speed up the process, and yet, he’d always, managed, to deter them.
He’d told his parents, that marriage IS for life, and being an only child, naturally, he’d needed to, find a well-rounded woman who will treat his parents well, plus, he’d wanted to have several children too, so the house would be filled with noises, wanted his parents to be patient about it, to wait for a bit longer. His aunts and uncles would, push him, telling him, that their classmates’ children are married or whatever, and have kids in the high school years already, and said, that if he didn’t find a partner, how was he going to take care of his aging parents and his young offspring at the same time, etc., etc., etc.? Although, there were, pushes ALL around, he could always, dodge them all, effectively.
I’d felt, that marriage is the matter to be left, to the younger generations, they’re all adults too, they will have the abilities, to choose for themselves, the kinds of life they want to live. As for when they’re all getting married? Leaving everything up to time to tell, and the elders should just, relax!
So, this would be, HOW god DAMN annoying it would be, for those of us who are unwed, during the holidays, we’d had to deal with the calls of, “When you getting married???”, blah-blah-blah, and if you’re married, then, their inquiries became, “When you having a kid???”, and this SHIT just never ends, and you CAN see why, some of the younger generations of children would do EVERYTHING they can, to avoid these get-togethers around the holidays, right???
Life, the Obstacle Course 