Translated…
After work that evening, I’d gone to my friend’s to pick up something, as I was chatting with my friend, her high school aged eldest daughter took her boyfriend home. The two of them said a slurred “hi”, then, they’d, walked into my friend’s daughter’s home, and they’d even, shut the door too. I could tell, that the moment they’d entered into her daughter’s room, my friend’s heart was, in the air, and, my words became like the wind, only, grazed through her ears, and not entered into her brains anymore.
I’d asked, “Do you want to go in there and check?”, my friend hesitated, “Is that all right? My daughter would surely get mad at me…”, “You can bring them some teas, or some snacks.”, I’d suggested.
My friend still looked hesitantly, toward that door that singled her baby girl and a strange guy next door. Her maternal instinct was being pulled and tugged, by whether or not she should respect her child, or be overly protective of her.
She’d turned around and asked me, “If it were you, would you enter?”, I’d laughed and told her, I’d already made an agreement with my daughter, before she comes of age, my respect toward her would be conditional.
“Oh, how so?” “She can have a boyfriend, but, she must bring him home so I can meet him, she’s not to go to his home alone, and she is not to cross ANY boundaries.” After all, it’s not hard to guess, what, those younger boys are thinking about, all of us, who were once young all know it. My friends continued, “So, did your daughter follow your rules?” I’d told her that, my daughter’s boyfriend is well-behaved, that he’d never asked my daughter to shut the door; and all those rules, I’d told the two of them verbally, and warned the boy, that if he were, to break them, I would NOT let him off the hook easily.
“But, how do you deal, when they just, slam the door shut like this?”, my friend still seemed troubled. I’d tapped her on the shoulders, said, “Toward children who still don’t know the dangers, respect is conditional, I should leave now, keep working at it, relating to your daughter.”
And so, this is all about rules and boundaries, and when your kids are teenagers, the “One command, one action” method may no longer worked, because they are now, challenging your authorities, and they’re going to, PUSH you, to see how far it is that they can go, and, teenagers are starting to be interested in sex too, and so, this mother is worried, which was warranted, there is no right OR wrong way of handling the matter, it’s all based off of your separate personal experiences.
Life, the Obstacle Course 