Longer the Holidays, the More Incidences of Domestic Violence

The stresses of the New Years, causing the rates of domestic violence to be on the hike here, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

The Nitty-Gritty of the New Year, the Members of the Family are in Conflict, if the Disputes are Too Deep Already, the Relatives Should Call, Instead of Visit, the Experts Suggested Using the “Sandwich Method” to Communicate.

The New Year’s holidays were originally a gathering of families, but, these gatherings may not always be pleasant, there may be an increase of friction between the members of the families too.  the records from the Department of Sanitary Welfare showed, that the longer the holidays, the more calls to report domestic violence there are, and, because there’s a long weekend for the New Year’s this year, the experts suggested to use the “Sandwich” method to communicate, first affirm, then remind, finally, encourage, this way would help reduce the tense atmosphere, and reduce the occurrences of domestic violence.

Chang an manager of the Protections Department of Department of Sanitation Welfares said, that there may be an increase in conflicts with the family members if they’d not have long interactions with the families, and that there may be more conflicts that happens due to differences of habits, and the differences of opinions; plus with alcohol as the stimulus, the ability of self-control may be diminished, that there would be this lacking in police force, causing an increase in cases of domestic violence.  Especially, the longer the holidays, the more cases of domestic violence were reported.  The statistics from last year showed that in the six days off, there were about 120 cases of child abuse that were reported, compared to the ninety-seven cases reported daily on average.

The psychiatrist, Yang said, for the parents, there are many minor things that need to be dealt with, like the cleaning of the house, the shopping before the holidays for the occasions.  And, handing out the red envelopes, buying the new clothes, and other sorts of expenses would also increase the economic burdens, that people are more than likely to lose their patience, causing conflicts between parents and children, as well as husbands and wives too.

And, the mindset of comparisons between the sisters-in-law, like whose kids made better grades, or whose household was better off, sometimes, the words would get too far, and, physical violence happens.  Yang had met a pair of brothers, that started beating each other up on the gatherings of families, and the families who’d tried to step in between them also got injured, and the entire family reported to the E.R. for the New Year’s holidays.

Yang suggested that people should use the sandwich method to communicate during this time, for instance, the specialty foods are too salty, you should give affirmations, that the foods are prepared well, then, remind the person who’d prepared it, to not put in too much salt next time, then, encourage the person, “I know you will make the foods better next year”, to reduce the nervous tensions, and, this techniques can also be used, in disciplining the children as well.

He’d also reminded, that if there are too much animosity between the relatives and the friends, then, you should avoid going to see them, instead, call the person up, and wish them a happy holiday, to reduce the chances of meeting up, and getting into physical altercations.

Because we can’t avoid the holidays, or what we usually do during the time, so, we must try to make everything okay, and, the best way is just to, avoid the situations completely, so you don’t get into those unnecessary arguments, and end up, ruining your own good moods during the holiday seasons.