The thoughts of a mother, translated…
Don’t know if my son, who’d gone up to the north to study had suppressed his fun-loving self too long, as a freshman in college, he’s, playing BIG TIME; I’d often seen on his FB pages, hiking up the mountains, singing karaoke, barbeques, visiting the night markets, movies at midnight, etc., etc., etc., as his mother, I’d needed not to ask him myself, I can also, check out what he’d been up to online.
But, last weekend, as I’d returned to my mother-in-law’s, his grandmother grilled me the moment she saw me, “Why can’t you have a handle on your own son? How can you, allow him to do as he wishes to, which college student goes crazy like this!” turns out, everything posted on FB becomes “fair game”, my mother-in-law who didn’t know how to use a computer, learned, from my youngest sister-in-law, that her grandson’s way of life in college was, “not studying at all, having fun every single day”, and she’d become, extremely worried.
and this, would be, how CRAZY those college kids are getting!!!
My eldest sister-in-law also read the message of “I can only, doze off in class, to catch up on my sleep” from my son once, and believed, that my son had been, wasting away his life in college, she’d told me, seriously, “you must remind him, that he’s going to get expelled, if he doesn’t get his acts together! Constantly having fun, with NO mind in his studies, he may NOT graduate!”
I’d understood, that my mother-in-law, and eldest sister-in-law’s concerns over my son, that, was why they’d wanted me to warn my son, to take his college life seriously; but, my belief is, he’d only begun college no more than three months ago, and, he doesn’t have to adjust himself to the rigorous coursework immediately, gaining new friends in a brand new environment, with no adjustment difficulties in the environment, I’d felt more at ease for him. And, I’d believed, that “youth should NOT be left blank!”, other than the academia, he should also take, some brand new courses in life as well, so that, was why I’d not, worried about him that much. Other than reminding him to keep his schedule regular, I’d reminded him, “partying hard, studying, harder too!”, as for the rest, I’d let him decide, how, he’s going to spend his college career.
letting loose here!
Naturally, NOT everybody agrees with my methods, and, I will, remind my son, from time to time, that he must find that balancing point between playing and studying; but, as I knew my son, I can already imagine my son’s look of annoyances, as he heard me remind him.
As a child turns eighteen, we should see him as an adult. And, as an open mom, I have more reasons to believe, that other than having experiences of a very different life, my son naturally has his set of plans for his future and his studies too!
And so, this, is how this mother copes, with the fact, that her son is partying a lot, as a freshman in college, and, her laissez-faire attitude is the correct one, because IF you, the parents don’t let go of your children, how the HELL are they going to learn to take responsibilities for themselves, and, besides, unless your offspring had, FLUNKED a few courses on their own, how would they come to their own senses of I need to work harder, in order to graduate???
none of these photos are mine by the way…
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