Finding Out Who the Other Man Was

In need of, expert advice here, a Q&A, translated…

Q: He’d become, so forceful, I feared, that my job may be destroyed, if it gets any worse…

Madam Chu is married, has a son, but because she wasn’t getting along with her husband, she’d had an extramarital affair, with a married man, and, shortly after their affair began, it was, discovered, by Madam Chu’s husband, after they’d discussed the matter thoroughly, for the sake of their son, Madam Chu and her husband decided to kiss and make up, but, her husband insisted on knowing who the other man was, said that that way, he would, find closure.

Madam Chu and the man she was having an affair with are both, regular office workers, her husband’s insistence on knowing who he was, with the intentions of confronting him in person, he’d even gone to the other man’s workplace, as well as family, to expose his affair with his wife.  And, as the scandal came out into the open, surely, Madam Chu and the man’s work will both be affected; and, naturally, Madam Chu was also afraid, that his wife would sue her for adultery, after all, this is, nothing to be proud of.

She’d discussed it, over and over again with her husband, stated that she’d known what she did was wrong, that they should just, drop the matter.  But the husband won’t back off, kept forcing Madam Chu to tell him, who her affair was.  And, she could no longer put up with his pushiness, she’d taken her child, and moved out.  She’d feared, that the identity of the man she was seeing would get found out by her husband, and feared that her husband would, go to her workplace, and tell everybody about the affair, causing her to, lose her job, as well as her son too.

A My Advice:

I imagine, that before Madam Chu had her extramarital affair, she’d had problems with her husband in her marriage already.

Of course, the one having the affair had faulted, but, from an alternative angle, a lot of the husbands who’d had their affairs, after admitting to it, promising never to get back in touch with their affairs, they’d gained the forgiveness of their wives easily.  No matter how hard it gets, the first wives would usually, keep putting up with their husbands.  But now, Madam Chu’s husband had, made up his mind, to find out just who she was having her affair with, to express his own anger, with no other options; his behaviors sounded like forgiveness, actually, he’s taking away his own wife’s most basic dignities.

If Madam Chu can no longer deal with it, and the husband’s anger still grows stronger by the day, it would be, very difficult, for the marriage, to keep going.  I think, Madam Chu can ask a divorce attorney, to give her advice on how to keep her reputation, and part with her husband amicably.

So, this is, after-the-fact, compared to how we women are FORCED to deal with your fucked up ways, you losers still do it, more drastically, and that, is just unfair, because why the F*** (maxed out, remember???) should you ask us to forgive you for your infidelities, and pretend like nothing had happened, once you’d come back to us, when you can’t even, let go, and stop pursuing the other man, when we’re the ones who’d “derailed”?  This is still, an extremely, gender unequal world we’re living in, based off of JUST this matter here.