and no, not my photograph…
From reading an article in the papers here, translated…
After reading “Saying I Love You Every Day”, I couldn’t help but keep on nodding, because I have a husband who’s not at all, shy, proclaiming his love to me.
Don’t recall when it’d started happening, my husband started using “I love you, honey” regularly every single day. Even when the kids are around, he’d said “I love you, honey”, without any embarrassment. And, when he’s in a good mood, he’d added, “my wife is never wrong, listening to her, I’m bound to get everything I need!”
But, in recent years, my husband’s sales quota dropped, and he’s going through his manopause, and would often see things as shades of gray, and, when he’d gotten in a mood, he’d scolded me, who’d tried to explain. His meanness, caused me to think, that he’s not the same person I married.
I know, that that, was caused by hormonal imbalance, that I can’t hold it against him, but to tell the truth, it is, really, very difficult, to keep everything bottled up inside.
That time, he’d gone into “out-of-control mode” again, right before he was about to burst, I’d immediately recalled one of his habits, asked him, “Honey didn’t you say that you love me? Why must you make me sad? Didn’t you used to say, that I’m never wrong, that you ‘need to listen to the words of your wife, so you’ll be blessed’? Why must you blame everything on me?”
Back then, his mouth fell open, but no word came out, he’d turned around, went downstairs, ignored me. Thirty minutes later, he’d returned, he was, no longer angry, and smiled and apologized to me too. And so, ever since then, whenever I’d sensed, that he was about to blow up, I’d reminded him, “honey, you love me, remember?”, and, managed to, disarm his anger.
Good men will also have their emotional ups and downs, gladly, my husband loved saying, “Honey, I love you”, and gladly, I’d found, that other than using this phrase to keep our love fresh, it can also, stabilize his emotions, reducing the frictions, and adding on, to the bliss of our day-to-day life too.
This, is a case of men’s menopause, and, just like women, they can get emotional at that age, and, this woman thought up of a great idea, to reduce the tension in the air, when the atmospheric pressures start rising, she’d used that inquiry of “didn’t you say you love me?”, to disarm her husband’s anger, and this can only happen, if the two of you had been married a long time, because only then, can you speak so freely about each other, without worrying that you might step on the landmines.
Life, the Obstacle Course 