From thumbing across another article in the papers here, translated…
After I’d read, “It’s So Hard, Being a Full-Time Mom”, I’d felt that connection, and I’d wanted to share with everybody, the experiences I’d had in my own marriage.
Like most people, I got married because I fell in love. Because of the bodily discomforts after I’d gotten pregnant, and how my workplace was very far from where I lived, I’d, quitted my job to stay at home, as I waited, to deliver my child; and still, my husband showed NO support toward my decision, and refused to provide money for the household needs, and my in-laws with whom I live with were totally unsupportive. The days just, dragged on, during my pregnancy, the few days before my month-long recovery was up, I’d flipped through the newspapers quickly, to find work, and, I’d sent in my résumés immediately too.
Gladly, I was, watched over by Lady Luck, right after my month-long recovery was finished, I immediately found a brand new job. Being able to work, for my pay, it’s such, an amazing feeling, and, I can spend my hard-earned wages however way I saw fit, and, nobody said a single word, as I took my wages home, to give to my own parents.
After I’d gotten married, I’d realized, that love is unrelated to marriage, what I earned in wages, WOULD be solely mine, and, with the economic independence, you’d gain the respects due to you.
The only regret I had was, that I couldn’t take care of my child every single day. Because of how busy work was, I can only, leave my children at the nanny’s during the day, and, after work, I’d immediately picked them up, so they can spend time with me. And gladly, my children were all very understanding of me, and managed to, comply with my schedules from work as well.
What I want to say is, do NOT be too dreamy about marriage, women still need the skills, to provide for oneself. Being self-reliant is the MOST important thing of all! Being able to make the money to support oneself, it’s a show of being confident too.
Because you had NO support from your husband, and your in-laws saw you as not doing enough to help make the ends in your families meet, that, was why, you’d given up being a stay-at-home mom, and that, would be what we women are faced with, in this modern day and age, and it’s still, very UNFAIR!
