Good fathers are MADE, not born, translated…
Seeing my coworker, Shu-Ji’s wife posted photos of her husband and their month-old son, waving their arms, with the music in the background, having so much fun, it’d drawn me back, to when my two grown children’s childhoods.
Recently, there were, a couple of male acquaintances becoming fathers, every time I saw them, posting photos or videos of them, interacting with their young, I’d felt, so moved. Because from before, most men focused on their jobs, just needed to bring in the paychecks and that, was all, “Having babies are women’s matters” had been an age-old belief, and, so long as a woman gets pregnant and has her baby, she’d done something wonderful, raising the children into adulthood, watch them marry and start a family, and working at a job well, that was considered as a fulfilled life.
Gladly, in modern day world, we no longer differentiated what’s men or women’s duties. Dads can get involved in childrearing, whether it be feeding, changing diapers, playing, to sleeping with, the men who can handle it all, are the ones who are truly, appreciative and kind to their wives, a new age good man who loved his family.
So, when I saw all of those excellent in the workforce male colleagues, after they returned home, they’d cooked in the kitchens, waking up in the middle of the nights to change and to feed the babies, sharing with me, the experiences of them, with their own young, I couldn’t help but awe, because in the year I was raised, there were, rarely any men who do this.
Before I got off on Friday afternoon, I saw how Shu-Ji was grinning from ear to ear, I laughed, “Can’t wait to get home to your son to play with him, are you?” Shu-Ji told me, “I really expect going home, and hugging my son, although it is, not at all easy, caring for a child, but, seeing his small feet and hands, and smile, it’s been, more than worth it”. Seeing how Shu-Ji had that lightness in his step, I think, this, is the joys of being a first time father!
And so, because the world is changing, and, modern day people no longer held strong on the traditional gender roles of women in charge of the babies and housework, while men go out, and bringing in the bread and the bacon, and besides, the mindsets of modern day men are evolving, as they started realizing the importance of spending more time with the children, after all, they all, grow up so quickly, don’t they?
and no, still NOT my photograph here…
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