A Q&A, translated…
Q: She is his one and only, should I get a divorce?
Mrs. I, with a five-year-old child, has a sad story of her life to share: at age thirty-four she’d finally married her thirty-nine year-old husband after they’d had their long run of love for ten years, at the start of the year, her husband was diagnosed with depression, and, the truth busted wide open: her husband has had an affair for two years already, and, the age of his “spare” was fifteen years junior.
The spare told I, that her husband lied about not being married, that, was why she’d started dating him.
During the time of his affair, perhaps, it was the fact that he’d felt he’d not been true to his marriage, or maybe he was compounded by the pressures of morality, and so, I’s husband encouraged his spare to find work in Taipei, that perhaps, she will find someone new, so they could end their affair. And, the other woman DID actually find another guy immediately, and told I’s husband that she wanted to break up; I’s husband was so shocked, and combined with the two years’ worth of nonstop stress, he’d become, clinically depressed.
Afterwards, every elder that I knew consoled her to forgive her husband, to give him another chance. Because their child was still quite young, I didn’t file for divorce right away, although her husband returned to the loving husband, good father image immediately, but I knew, that he’s still in love with the other woman, that she, was his favorite.
I wanted to console her husband to divorce, to get back with the other woman. She wanted to ask, should she, force her husband to divorce her?
A My Opinion
I believe, that I does love her husband very deeply, just felt, that she was not loved like her husband’s spare by her husband. The thing for I to do now, is to think about whether or not she still wanted this marriage, instead of trying to find out what her husband wanted. The “victims” are usually hurt by not being loved again, and, in order to get the self-confidences back, both sides needed to work hard; at least, I’s husband DID “try”, to return to his family. If you still love him, then, just give him some time, while you just, observe.
Yeah, you’ve got to be SHITTING me right? This, is still a MAN, unwilling to take the responsibilities, and this woman was kind enough to let her husband be free from their marriage, and now, his spare had found another and he’d become hurt, and needed his first wife to help him heal? Are you FUCKING kidding me? this, is why, women ARE always going to be the ones, to take the initiatives, to make the decisions in our marriages, because you losers are just, WAY too god DAMN passive on the matter!