Are you willing, to allow your child to carry the “status” of an illegit? That, would be the thing to consider here, a Q&A, translated…
Q: He’d told me, that if I will give birth to his child, then, he will divorce his wife…
A, who’s unmarried wrote, it’d mentioned that she’d been dating a man who’s already married, the first time she got pregnant, because they couldn’t get married, she’d had an abortion for him. A whose heart was cold, and wanted to force the man to make up his mind about her or his own wife, stated that they should be apart for awhile, hoped, that he could take some time, to seriously consider both their futures; but, the man got really angry, he’d reacted strongly to her words, it’d made A fear, and she’d not mentioned it again.
Not long afterwards, A was pregnant again. And because she’d had an abortion previously, she’d decided to have this child now. Other than being worried about how her body had already endured through one abortion, that it may cause her to have difficulties getting pregnant again in the future, another reason being how the man wanted to have this baby, he said, “Raising a kid won’t cost that much anyway.”
The problem is, the man is married, and with debts, it wasn’t at all possible, that he’d marry A, he’d only given her verbal “promises”, that within two weeks, he’s going to head home to Yilan, to talk to his own wife about a divorce. And, although A chose to believe him for the time being, but, the more she thought about it, the more worried she gets. She wanted to know, would it be bad, to have this child?
A My Advice:
As women, we must have a belief: when you’re with a man who just wanted to play on, or would date, but wouldn’t marry, the first point of having intimacy is that you MUST use protection, whether it be for the sakes of avoiding pregnancy or contracting an STD. Although, there’s still NOT a one-hundred-percent safety measure out there, but, based off of what I got on A’s interaction with her boyfriend, contraception IS absolutely necessary.
Because the man is already married, is emotionally unstable, and, by having a baby, it’ll complicate things even more, but, A not only didn’t take precautions, she was willing to believe, that the man would divorce his own wife. When a man says, “Just have the baby first, but I can’t marry you yet, just give me a little more time”, basically, it’s a tactic, because after she’d had a child, there’s NO way, that A will be able to leave the man, unless, A can support both herself and her own young.
Whether or not to have the baby, A has her share of difficulties on her plate now. A doesn’t seem to be brave, or persistent either, and, on the matter of having a baby, she must think it through thoroughly, after all, it’s a brand new life you’re bringing into the world, it’s a young life that needed to be watched over 24/7, is A ready for it?
So, we have still, an IRRESPONSIBLE L-O-S-E-R, and a DUMB woman who believes in those LIES, and, I can already tell you what’s gonna happen AFTER she had her baby. He’s still going to WHORE around, like he was cheating on his own wife with A, and, he’s going to sweeten up those lies before he’d fed it to A, and, A will just gobble it all down, just as she’d done from the beginning, and, you don’t even KNOW it yet, lady, but, you’re STUCK, in the VICIOUS cycle, hello, hello, hello? And, because this, is me, from the OUTISDE looking IN, that, is why I can see it so very clearly, but, this woman is STUCK on the inside, that, is why she can’t see things clearly!
Life, the Obstacle Course 