Ke-Xiang Liu: Learn to Let Go, the Children Will Find Their Own Paths, Taking Steps Back, So We Can Communicate with the Children More Smoothly

Advice from the experts here, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

“The parents take a step back, the children will have open skies to soar”.  In the recent marches by students, it’d made Ke-Xiang Liu recalled how five years ago, he’d almost had a conflict with his younger son.  At the moment, he’d chosen to “take a step back”, respected his child’s choices, and still continued to show his cares and concerns for him, “taking a step back, allowing the conversation to flow again.”

“Life has no meaning”, five years ago, Liu’s younger son just finished his national examinations and told him in a depressed state of mind.  “Why not?”, Liu worked really hard, to try to communicate with him, the son mentioned a request, “I just want to dye my hair”.

Caring too much about the environment, Liu was totally against dying hair, but, as he’d gone to his son’s school, understood what other students thought, discussed it with his wife, he’d decided, to allow his son to do what he’d wanted to do.  Just advised his younger son to buy the plant dyes that are safer and environmentally friendly, and, as the family dyed his hair for him, the son’s moods lifted.

Liu stated, that children at puberty are especially sensitive, has strong beliefs, one misstep, they’d gone down the wrong paths.  A therapist once told him, that it wouldn’t be abnormal for the children in this stage to use violent on the parents, and it’d often happened in the higher economic homes and more educated family backgrounds too.  And so, if there are things that the children insisted on doing, and the parents couldn’t talk them out of it, even if the parents don’t agree, they should still learn to “take a step back, and show their cares and concerns”, continue to communicate with the young.

And now, as the younger son had entered into the workforce, he’d stopped dying his hair.  Ke-Xiang Liu believed, that the parents should NOT force their own values onto their young.  As the parents learn to “let go, continue to communicate”, the children will find their own ways.

Lesson on parenting, and, it is important, for you, the parents to let go of your own young, let them make the decisions on their own, and, trust that you’d taught them well, because if you don’t have the faith, then, your young are totally SCREWED!