Love, for a Second Time, on Marriage

Translated…

A few days ago, I’d made a visit to a friend who was a member of my cancer support group, because of her condition, worsening, she’d needed a second surgery.  As I was visiting her, I’d watched the colon specialist, replaced her body parts, I wasn’t prepared for it, as I saw her wound, I was shocked, and, I saw how her face wouldn’t stop twitching as the nurses changed the medications on her wounds, I felt so awful for her I’d almost started crying.

In the ward, the specialist was teaching her husband how to change the medicated patches on her wound, her husband was very slow to understand what he was doing, but, he was very gentle, fearing that he might cause his wife pain.

My friend pulled on me, and complained to me constantly, “He’s too nagging, kept telling me to eat more, or wanted me to take a drink of this or that, it’s so annoying!”, but, what I saw was, that her complaints came nonstop out of her lips, but, there was, a smile, curling up from the corners of her lips at the same time.  In this single patient hospital ward, in this world of two, isn’t this somewhat of their second honeymoon?

After I’d returned, I’d written a letter to another friend whose husband was diagnosed with liver cancer, I’d hoped that they could cherish this opportunity, to see how important they are to one another, and to take advantage of the time they have, to do what they wanted to do in the past.

I kept believing, being diagnosed with cancer is a way that God is telling us to retire, to enjoy a life without worries, hoping, that in the future days, we’ll love ourselves, treat ourselves more kindly, in the days we may have left.

Change a thought, being diagnosed with cancer is heaven’s way of giving us an immediate notice, to allow us to take advantage of the time we may have left, to say what we always wanted to say, but couldn’t before; to do some things that we’d wanted to do, but never got around to, or didn’t dare, just treat it as a second time you fall in love, to re-experience this time for just the two of you.  Being diagnosed with cancer, isn’t necessarily all bad.

And so, being diagnosed with cancer, it’d made you and your spouse realize how important you are to one another, and, you’d started taking advantage of the time you shared, reprioritized your lives, so, says WHO that cancer is always bad?