A Q&A, translated…
Q: Without any signs of cheating, he’d checked into a motel room with someone else…
Ms. Weng who’d found out about her boyfriend’s cheating wrote, she started dating her boyfriend three years ago, lived together with him for three years too, her boyfriend kept a regular schedule, after work, he’d headed straight home, and on the weekends, he’d stayed at home too, with absolutely NO signs showing. Although he didn’t have the lips of sugar, he is, however, really kind toward Ms. Weng, but, one day, she’d accidentally found, that her boyfriend had webcam sessions with another woman, and had gone to a hotel to fool around with her too.
Ms. Weng started losing sleep, when she’d grilled him, he’d faced her inquiries with straight face and his silence. Ms. Weng’s boyfriend is someone who NEVER admits it when he’s wrong, and, this sort of an attitude had caused Ms. Weng to be at her wits end.
My Advice
From Ms. Weng’s words, I can know, that even IF the boyfriend cheated, so long as he could console her on it, make up some lies, to soothe her emotions, Ms. Weng would forgive him, and never grill him on it again.
But, I also need to remind Ms. Weng, why would these sort of men, who are steady and getting along well with their girlfriends have behaviors of “calling on hookers”, being promiscuous, and even, sleeping with other women? And totally refused to communicate with his girlfriend, and never admits to wrongdoing.
What I’m worried about more is, this sort of seeking out other partners for sex are unlike the normal kinds of infidelities, instead, they’re more related to having a fetish, or a sort of a habit; in other words, this may not have been a recent occurrence, instead, it may have happened from before, and, it would be, hard for him, to quit doing it, and it’s not resolved at all, by a simple apology.
Other than being sad over it, Ms. Weng may also want to consider, other than wanting his apologies and soothing her over, if after the marriage, he still behaved exactly the same, would she be able to accept it? If by just apologizing, Ms. Weng will take him back, she would easily be taken advantage of by him, and so, why must he change his own bad behaviors?
So, this, is a woman, trapped, by the behaviors of her constantly cheating boyfriend, and, he’s still a SORRY excuse for a man, because he couldn’t stop himself, from humping around, and so, he made up an assortment of excuses to fool this woman whom he is dating, and he knew, that she is not going to break up with him, which, is why, she’s stuck, in the vicious cycle, but, she can’t see that, because she’s too close, to the core of the issues, while others on the outside can!