On the growth of a woman, translated…
Awhile ago, I saw the words of a long-time stage actor, he said, “What would be the biggest regret if someone had died?” these words had, shocked me to the core, it’d waken me up, to dig deep, to see what my biggest regrets in life were, a few days later, I’d gone to a gathering of friends, where I’d engaged into discussion on the subjects, and, it’d roused up everybody’s interests.
My friend, A is almost forty, a decade ago, she’d had a misunderstanding with her mother, and now, when they see each other, they’d still not have any verbal exchanges. She told me, that her mother is already in her seventies now, when we’d talked about whether or not her relationship with her mother will become a regret in her life, A started crying, “It’s been a decade, it’s truly hard, to break the ice again. But, I’m grateful, for all of your reminders, I will, try it.”
Another friend, B, grew up poor, with a total of eight siblings, she’s the eldest, in order to lessen the load that her parents are carrying, she’d given up on continuing her education, and started helping to carry the household economic on her own shoulders; with just an elementary education, although she has a happy family now, whenever the subjects drifted to the topics of level of education, her sense of inferiority would tilt its head outward, she’d often divert the attention of those around her, or make fun of herself, turns out, that she still had to, untie that knot that’s inside of her heart.
Other than giving her the consoles, we’d supported B, who’s in her sixties right now, that her children are all grown, and, her husband had NO objections, why not go back to school again, to fill up that regret that’s buried inside of her. So long as she’s willing to learn, age don’t matter at all, don’t let this issue that’s troubling yourself for half a century, to continue on any longer.
In our encouragements, B decided, to make a decision that will keep the regrets away, next month, she’s to start at the middle school program for adults, to find that long lost sense of self-confidence of hers again.
Seeing how my friend was so brave, in taking that first step, I’d reminded myself, to live in the moment, to NOT get tied down by my own pasts, to leave NO regrets for this lifetime; do what you want to do, NOW, so, you can create more beautiful memories for yourselves.
So, this would be the understanding you got, in your midlife, and, because the older generations were mostly raised poor, and so, not being able to go to school is one of their biggest regrets, and, some people ARE doing SOMETHING about it, while others are just, letting those regrets SIT, and ferment………
Life, the Obstacle Course 